Clicky poll: Was your infertility a surprise?

alchris · April 2010

For purposes of this poll, I'm thinking about children whom you had difficulty conceiving, not possible older children whom you may have conceived without difficulty. In other words, think of the child/children who brought you an infertility diagnosis.

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LCB34 · April 2010

Not a surprise at all. I was diagnosed with stage IV endo prior to TTC so we knew we what we were dealing with from the get go.

krissyh21 · April 2010

I was in denial for a long time. My sister had IF, so after 5 years of not getting pregnant - although not timing it the whole time I decided I might be IF.

roaringrock · April 2010

your new siggy is SO DARN CUTE!

alchris · April 2010

roaringrock:

your new siggy is SO DARN CUTE!

LOL -- thanks!!! She ran away right after I took it so it was the best I got.

InLove24 · April 2010

It was a surprise but we are unexplained. So no male or female factor that was found.

alchris · April 2010

InLove24:
It was a surprise but we are unexplained. So no male or female factor that was found.

Oops -- I'll add it! Sorry!

clojel · April 2010

complete surprise to me. I'm one of 5 and every one of my siblings were unplanned pregnancies...they just happened. I foolishly thought it would be the same way for me.

LVBlvd · April 2010

Never got a period without birth control until I was 16 weeks post-partum...so yeah, I thought there would be some challenges there.

However, it was a surprise that clomid, clomid plus injectables, lap surgery with ovarial drilling, injectables alone, then injectables with IUI wouldn't work. We were shocked that each stage didn't work.

mybobble · April 2010

YES!

Every woman in my family gets pg at the drop of a hat. So being diagnosed w/ i/f was a complete shock!

JillRock96 · April 2010

I had to respond "special snowflake."

We had both a female factor (PCOS) and a male factor (low morph, motility, and count). Both are/were significant enough to cause problems on their own. We didn't have a clue about the male factor until we went through testing, and I didn't have any signs of PCOS before going off the pill to TTC.

alchris · April 2010

JillRock96:

I had to respond "special snowflake."

We had both a female factor (PCOS) and a male factor (low morph, motility, and count). Both are/were significant enough to cause problems on their own. We didn't have a clue about the male factor until we went through testing, and I didn't have any signs of PCOS before going off the pill to TTC.

Thanks! I went with "mostly" female or male, knowing I was kinda asking folks to pick a side, LOL. But special snowflake is perfect for you and your beautiful girls!

AlissaCell701 · April 2010

Total Surprise! I am actually heathy and was surprised when it came back that DH had issues. I was pretty convinced that it was me due to the fact that both of my parents (mom and dad) are both adopted and we don't know any family history (they were closed adoptions). My parents had no problems concieving either my brother or I.

DH though has cronic bleeding ulcers (2 major surgeries in the last 2 yrs) and Crohnes Disease. The meds he has to be on to control his ulcers has an adverse affect on sperm. Who knew??

howleyshell · April 2010

I had suspicions due to LP spotting around 8 dpo so I wasn't surprised but I faced and uphill battle with my BFF's.

I'd donated eggs twice and they knew they'd resulted in live births so they all thought that I had to be a fertile myrtle and must have just been over reacting to not getting a BFP right away.

I hated having to "defend" my IF to them.

laura1 · April 2010

I had to vote SS - we had both male and female issues. It was a surprise, but I had always thought I might have problems. I knew that my mom had started menopause early, and I was always worried that I would have DOR - but we started TTC when I was 29, so I didn't think it was going to be an issue then. And then it turned out that that was not my problem...we had other issues!

pinkcallalily · April 2010

Ours was a surprise, but for some reason I always had a feeling getting pregnant wouldn't be easy. I'm not sure why I felt this way, especially since we are unexplained.

Smudges*Mom · April 2010

Our IF was a surprise. Sure, we are AMA, but lots of "old" folks get pregnant all the time. I get my period like clock-work every month, it appears that I ovulate on my own. In testing, DH's numbers were on the lower end of the scale, but nothing that would prevent us from getting pregnant. We did 4 IUIs and none worked.

With our IVF cycle, we did ICSI. They got 15 eggs. 12 were mature. Only 6 fertilized. They put the two best back and none made it to freeze (but where I cycled has a really high threshold for freezing, they rarely have any they freeze).

My opinion, given how things went, is that we have a fertilization problem. It doesn't really matter because we are one and done.

PsychedForBaby · April 2010

Total surprise. My sister had severe endo since the onset of her periods and puberty and still had no problems getting pregnant. As in they thought about it and it happened. Three times. She had it so bad that she had a total hysterectomy at age 37.

I don't have endo or PCOS or any other known issues and always had textbook perfect 28-30 day cycles and it still didn't happen (or rather stick) until our 2nd IVF with ICSI.

After a failed IUI with some less than stellar numbers on the male side DH had a SPA run and he scored 47%. Borderline normal for sperm penetration. We actually both had test that came back with borderline normal results.

Bottom line, we fell into the unexplained category.

OrangeSmoke · April 2010

Answer 1 and 2 - I was diagnosed with PCOs when I was 15 and I've pretty much had non existent cycles since then.

EverAfterinMi · April 2010

Complete shock. I got pregnant the first month we tried. ectopic.Got pregnant again.. ectopic in the other tube. I was told my chances of the 2nd one were slim to none. Like lightening. So for whatever reason, I believe my tubes were bad. I never had a "female" issue in my life and had no reason to suspect anything.

jastl32 · April 2010

It was, but it wasn't a surprise. I never had regular periods my entire life. There was a part of me that "thought" I might have difficulty, but never really put two and two together until we were TTC.

SeaSoul · April 2010

DH knew he might be dealing with IF b/c of cancer treatments. I was more convinced my AMA would be an issue than that. We both were very optimistic about our chances - so, not a complete surprise but a gigantic letdown when we found out that DH did, indeed, have (major) lingering effects from the cancer he endured as a child.

Quizzle · April 2010

Mostly a surprise....

My cycles had always been a little irregular (albeit just barely on the long side) but never enough to be a real problem. The male factor was a complete shock, especially because I got pregnant the very first cycle we timed it right, but m/c at 5 weeks. My cycles went completely bonkers (from around 32 days to 45+) after that, so we thought it was me until we got the SA done a year months later.

FaithRocks · April 2010

Special snowflake: I was surprised but I SHOULD have known this. I was diagnosed with endometriosis when I was young but no one ever thought to tell me how it would affect my fertility so I didn't know until we started TTC that it would cause a problem.

gabbeyh · April 2010

Not a surprise to me...I had a "gut" feeling that we would have problems. We are severe MFI.

TinyTeacher · April 2010

DH and I are both young and have had no health problems in the past. On one hand I was surprised to learn I have Endometriosis, but on the other hand I had a gut feeling for years before TTC that it would be a difficult road. I have no idea why I had that feeling, there were no clues.

GenRN45 · April 2010

I replied special snowflake. The MFI was unexpected, but the only thing we found at first. It was only after te failure of IVF #1 and further testing that we found the POF. Based on all of my initial testing, we thought I was fine.

Dochas · April 2010

I clicked "other". My whole life I just always had a feeling that I would have trouble. Honestly, nothing has ever happened the easy or normal way for me. From the time I started working and at every new job I had I always took whatever insurance had infertility coverage.

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