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wingedbride
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Overnight help after baby?
wingedbride
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My H is going to be going out of town right after our baby is due for just a few days. I am going to have my parents down, but would prefer to have them helping me just during the day.
I am considering getting someone who would spend the night and assist me. Does anyone know any local resources for this? Or what this is even called? haha
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Re: Overnight help after baby?
It is called a night nanny and V got hers from The Motherhood Center (I'm pretty sure)
https://www.motherhoodcenter.com/baby-nurse-and-doula-services#postpartum-doulas
j+k+m+e | running with needles
Great thanks!
Does anyone know approximately what it costs per night?
This blows my mind. Why is it so much more than a nanny?
So Tasty, So Yummy
I don't get it either...it's called motherhood. Sorry if I offended anyone but I have never understood this unless you went back to work 2 weeks after giving birth. Deal with it.
Sorry Kandy, but this is insanely harsh. Until you've ever been in someone shoes, you have no idea how hard or easy motherhood is for someone. Especially if anyone (and I'm not saying Winged or V or anyone specifically) is dealing with PPD or any other emotional or psychological problems, these night nannies can be an absolute lifesaver.
Pagas, I think the cost factor is because no one tends to hire a night nanny long term, so you're paying to make up for that. Also, night shifts in general tend to pay a lot more than day shifts so I'm sure that's a factor as well.
j+k+m+e | running with needles
Um, yeah. Harsh is right.
I was going to type out the hows and whys of my night nanny usage, but I stopped b/c I really don't need to defend it.
Winged: I used one night nanny that was a referral and another thru the Motherhood Center. Unfortunately, the referral is no longer working as a night nanny now that she has finished nursing school. I highly recommend the Motherhood Center, though. I felt very confident with whomever they were going to send me. Also, since you'll be using one in the very beginning, you'll have even more interaction with her than I had with mine, i.e. she will bring the baby to you to nurse during the night. I think it's so smart of you to do this since your husband will be gone. Different NNs do different things, but you can also request that they help you a little bit around the house with something like laundry or dishes. This is a great way to "deal with it" and if you have the resources to do so, go for it. Believe me, you are no less of a mother for getting some help- esp if your family resources are limited.
regarding cost: the MC charges $25/hr after 7. Before 7, it's like $20 (their babysitting fee, basically). I had the NN come at 6 the 1st night. She helped me with both boys bedtime routines (DH was OOT) and I thought it was important for her to meet my youngest since he was older (~8-9 mos) and not just show up in his room in the middle of the night. the thing is, that $25/he is part fees to the agency- which is another reason it's so expensive. i would book just a couple of nights and ask the nanny- assuming you like her- if she works independently. on her own, with the $ going straight in to her pocket- you can expect to pay $5-8 less per hour.
i can ask my mom's group for additional referrals or search our archives. MANY MANY moms in my neighborhood use night nannies so either they are all bad at "just dealing with it" or there is actually something valuable in this kind of service.
I can't comment on a night nanny, but I absolutely needed help that first week. I knew I was going to have a c/s, but I also ended up with a 10+lb baby and my doctor was very strict about me limiting picking him up. I probably could have picked him up in an emergency situation, but she wanted me to try not to as much as possible for the first 2 weeks. It was hard on me emotionally, but I also feel like I healed rather quickly considering. I actually felt pretty good 2 weeks pp and by 6 weeks I felt great.
Excuse me, but I have to finish laughing at this statement before i could possibly respond.
Let me get this straight, if I need overnight help for when my H goes out of town the week after my first child is born, are you implying I somehow become not a mother?
thanks raykit for all of the info. I am glad you feel comfortable with them as a referral agency, that is great!
And let me know if anyone else has another suggestion. I know I need to start looking now since it is getting close!!
KDW, I have to say you are one fantastic judgy mcjudgerson! If you haven't ever had sleep issues with YOUR perfect kids then you have absolutely no right to judge someone else.
it's called COPING!
I didn't get a night nurse but let me tell you, if I had had the opportunity I might have and you know what, if I could afford it too then pththththbt on YOU!
I am quite sure that many on this board could judge your for things that you do too! having a generator hand delivered to your house during a hurricane rather than to others that were really in need jumps to mind.
BWAH!
Lol! Not at all. Reading WAY too much into my statement.
Really? Is this all you could come up with with no details? I think you have NO idea how many generators were donated after the storm. DH pretty much powered up the entire island for crying out loud. LOL!!!!
I also never stated in anyway that my child was perfect. It wasn't even implied.
Our nanny might be interested in a small overnight job for few days...
email me brandisellshouses@yahoo.com
My original post was in response to PAGAS.....not the OP. Simmer down a bit. Maybe my response was a bit direct but it is my opinion. I think about 80% of conversation on these boards are opinions. Some we agree with and like, some we don't. No need to throw out the whole Judgey McJudgerson or how ever you spell it. Turn your defense mode off for a bit.
you might also post on care.com - they charge a small fee for joining, but are very reliable.
You might also find someone looking to help you on a regular basis during mat leave (if that's something you're interested in.)
j+k+m+e | running with needles
Thanks!
And I am not sure I will want someone regularly. We will have famiuly around a lot and I have a good support system here, but you never know once I get into it! I appreciate it!
Chiming in late here, but I second care.com
They have many "overnight" nanny/sitter services available for $10-25/hr not including the $30/month fee to join.