Im sorry for the judging post

susanmosley · March 2010

Ugh. Im sorry.

It was simply a response to reading (a lot on 12-24) that people claim to not judge other people. And I think that is silly.

I am not talking about how what you feed your kid, whether you work/SAH, if they are RR or FF, if they watch TV and all of the other things people do differently. I don't really care. I doesn't affect me.

I am talking about people (parents or non-parents) that are doing dumb things, unsafe things (kids w/o seatbelts, dogs in hot cars, smoking in a closed car with an infant, etc) I don't know how people can claim they don't judge these types of things.

I am sorry I posted about this. I feel bad and am embarrassed. blah. sorry

Stacyc625 · March 2010

Why on earth would you apologize for that post-

i completely agree with you.

Judging is part of being human-

HarrietNJMommy · March 2010

I wouldn't feel bad or embarassed about the post. I'm just sorry that people took it the wrong way, and not the way it was intended.

axr8111 · March 2010

No apology necessary here. I agree that everyone judges. People who say they don't ever judge are lying. If someone is doing something wrong then yes I will judge them. This doesn't mean that if they are doing something different than I believe that I won't accept them or appreciate their difference but some actions that are just plain wrong are a sign of someone character.

Stacyc625 · March 2010

Its funny that you brought the whole 'judging' thing up ~ because honestly i am not really one to judge- on the minor things of life- i don't care (like you said) if you SAHM- or work, FF or BF, list goes on and on-

However- being pregnant currently (and the combo of tax season) has dramatically decreased my fuse for BS/drama etc. I also feel like things 'bother' me more- things that normally i could care less about.

Example: a working mom friend of mine and her DH are taking a trip over the holidays to NC- a 10 hour drive- they took 2 cars so it would allow both of them a chance to drive in peace (without their DS). I judged that- to myself.

I also judge said mom- anytime she leaves her DS in daycare longer so she can get things done in peace. Yet she constantly tells me how lucky i am to be home all day and can get things done. *ok- double standard here- you can't have both- be home all day AND have your kid in daycare- come on. I judged that- internally again.

It has to be pretty 'big' for me to actually judge someone and call them out. But sure- I judge just like everyone else.

As for judging online- umm yeah i guess i do that too- there are certain posters- whose posts i will not open- because its not worth reading because i know how i feel (from prior judgements)- so i just don't open their posts. Makes it easier on me lol.

lms_bride · March 2010

I thought it was an interesting and relevant topic. No need to apologize in my opinion. No one is judging you for being honest.

susanmosley · March 2010

lms_bride:
I thought it was an interesting and relevant topic.? No need to apologize in my opinion.? No one is judging you for being honest.?

lol. I beg to differ. I am pretty sure I am being judged on this. ?But I guess my other judging-point is that I am ok w people judging me. I know it happens. People judge. Back to my original point. Oy. I am judged out as I am sure many of you are.

MamatoJackson · March 2010

TOTALLY no need to apologize! I'm sorry if I made you feel bad - That completely wasn't my intent. It's "my" issue that I immediately thought, "Hmm, what have I posted recently," and I just found it amusing.

I completely agree with your post and there's no reason to be sorry!!!

TrinaKay · March 2010

MamatoJackson:
TOTALLY no need to apologize! I'm sorry if I made you feel bad - That completely wasn't my intent. It's "my" issue that I immediately thought, "Hmm, what have I posted recently," and I just found it amusing.
I completely agree with your post and there's no reason to be sorry!!!

I totally wasn't serious about it either. I was just joking around!

No need to apologize.

I'll send you a pic of what I'm wearing today and give you a good reason to judge me!!

susanmosley · March 2010

lms_bride:
I thought it was an interesting and relevant topic.? No need to apologize in my opinion.? No one is judging you for being honest.?

lol. I beg to differ. I am pretty sure I am being judged on this. ?But I guess my other judging-point is that I am ok w people judging me. I know it happens. People judge. Back to my original point. Oy. I am judged out as I am sure many of you are.

susanmosley · March 2010

lms_bride:
I thought it was an interesting and relevant topic.? No need to apologize in my opinion.? No one is judging you for being honest.?

lol. I beg to differ. I am pretty sure I am being judged on this. ?But I guess my other judging-point is that I am ok w people judging me. I know it happens. People judge. Back to my original point. Oy. I am judged out as I am sure many of you are.

EnglishMajor03 · March 2010

Stacyc625:
Why on earth would you apologize for that post-

i completely agree with you.

Judging is part of being human-

Yeah! Relax!!

EnglishMajor03 · March 2010

Stacyc625:
Its funny that you brought the whole 'judging' thing up ~ because honestly i am not really one to judge- on the minor things of life- i don't care (like you said) if you SAHM- or work, FF or BF, list goes on and on-

However- being pregnant currently (and the combo of tax season) has dramatically decreased my fuse for BS/drama etc. I also feel like things 'bother' me more- things that normally i could care less about.

Example: a working mom friend of mine and her DH are taking a trip over the holidays to NC- a 10 hour drive- they took 2 cars so it would allow both of them a chance to drive in peace (without their DS). I judged that- to myself.

I also judge said mom- anytime she leaves her DS in daycare longer so she can get things done in peace. Yet she constantly tells me how lucky i am to be home all day and can get things done. *ok- double standard here- you can't have both- be home all day AND have your kid in daycare- come on. I judged that- internally again.

It has to be pretty 'big' for me to actually judge someone and call them out. But sure- I judge just like everyone else.

As for judging online- umm yeah i guess i do that too- there are certain posters- whose posts i will not open- because its not worth reading because i know how i feel (from prior judgements)- so i just don't open their posts. Makes it easier on me lol.

Are you talking about me? I knew you didn't like me Crying

jenifairies · March 2010

10 month old Alaina is totally side-eye judging you right now for being such a judger.

Kitten80 · March 2010

It seems I may have missed something since I originally read your post & the replies, but I don't think you have anything to apologize for! Your post and your replies made total sense to me and I don't think there was anything wrong with it. SO Smile

susanmosley · March 2010

jenifairies:
10 month old Alaina is totally side-eye judging you right now for being such a judger.

LOL

Stacyc625 · April 2010

EnglishMajor03:
Stacyc625:

Its funny that you brought the whole 'judging' thing up ~ because honestly i am not really one to judge- on the minor things of life- i don't care (like you said) if you SAHM- or work, FF or BF, list goes on and on-

However- being pregnant currently (and the combo of tax season) has dramatically decreased my fuse for BS/drama etc. I also feel like things 'bother' me more- things that normally i could care less about.

Example: a working mom friend of mine and her DH are taking a trip over the holidays to NC- a 10 hour drive- they took 2 cars so it would allow both of them a chance to drive in peace (without their DS). I judged that- to myself.

I also judge said mom- anytime she leaves her DS in daycare longer so she can get things done in peace. Yet she constantly tells me how lucky i am to be home all day and can get things done. *ok- double standard here- you can't have both- be home all day AND have your kid in daycare- come on. I judged that- internally again.

It has to be pretty 'big' for me to actually judge someone and call them out. But sure- I judge just like everyone else.

As for judging online- umm yeah i guess i do that too- there are certain posters- whose posts i will not open- because its not worth reading because i know how i feel (from prior judgements)- so i just don't open their posts. Makes it easier on me lol.

Are you talking about me? I knew you didn't like me

lol ~ english you are such a goofball~!

Temp174496125006552 · April 2010

You have nothing to be sorry for. Don't apologize and don't feel bad about it. If people are that highly upset about what you said, they need to get a grip.

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