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There's a girl on there saying how she doesn't/can't feel bad for her friend who had a m/c because her friend has called the baby a parasite in the past.

I responded with "I'm glad I don't have a friend like you!" Although I never referred to my baby as a parasite, I know woman who have and love their children like no ones business. 

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  • ShellShockedMamaShellShockedMama member

    Well, maybe you don't know the whole story? I knew a girl who would not give sympathy to others who m/c early and said the "baby" was just a bag of cells, so why would they be upset--until she herself had a loss. Then she went crying about her baby (not a bag of cells, like she previously said) and wanted tons of sympathy. I had a hard time giving it to her due to her previous comments and inability to acknowledge why other people would be upset.

    Not that I'm making excuses for the poster b/c 1st tri is usually a special batch 'o stupid.

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  • Brady1*Brady1*
    Yes this is very true, I do not know the whole story. 
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  • Lissa832Lissa832 member

    The parasite comment was probably a joke.  A baby's survival is completely dependent on the mother.  They take their nutrition from the mother.  It is very similar to a host/parasite relationship.  I've heard people joke about it many times.  It is not a malicious statement.  It is a joke.  I've never taken offense when I heard it, nor did I take it as the 1st trimester OP must have.  I agree with you.  No matter what she said in the past.  No one deserves to go through that.

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  • companion cubecompanion cube member
    Okay, not sympathizing with her friend, that's her choice, but saying something like that around a bunch of other women whose stories she doesn't know is also insensitive. She also doesn't know what her readers on that public forum have been through.
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  • bbhalphenbbhalphen member

    How I read it is that her friend wasn't crazy about being pregnant and then she m/c.  As always, though, POF said it best.

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  • Olive44Olive44 member
    Wow what the fvck is wrong with that girl??  I am trying my hardest not to rip her a new one, but for her to even talk about her friend going through a miscarriage like that?  Serioulsy. She obviously has no clue how devastating it is. 
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  • Steph0925Steph0925 member
    Ugh - just looked at that post.  That girl has no clue.  I would not be offended if someone called their baby a parasite.  Seriously?  That doesn't mean she didn't love and want that baby.  
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  • SonadoraSonadora member

    I tried to ignore.

    FAIL.

    Couldn't do it. I really dislike her. 

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