Do you ever feel like you have the plague?

jen629 · March 2010

I swear there a few of my friends who would IM me daily and talk to me all of the time (pregnant ones) and since the second miscarriage you think I fell off the face of the earth...I know its hard and people don't want to "rub" it in my face...but seriously so now you just aren't gonna talk to me?...you don't have to talk about your pregnancy you know?...and also to these people who have had IF and past miscarriages themselves it stings a little more because I was the one cheering them on and NOT talking about my pregnancy to..uggghhh ..sorry I have been holding that in a while now...hmmm that felt good actually:)

bbhalphen · March 2010

That sucks and I'm sorry you're having to deal with it. The pregnant ones probably don't know what to say but the ones who have gone through it have no excuse!

EmKo0210 · March 2010

I know how you feel. I hate when people don't say anything because they don't know what to say or how to act.

I'm sorry you have "friends" that do that. You don't deserve it.

jen629 · March 2010

bbhalphen:
That sucks and I'm sorry you're having to deal with it. The pregnant ones probably don't know what to say but the ones who have gone through it have no excuse!

It really is mostly pregnant ones who have had miscarriages and/or Infertility I just can't imagine being that uncaring...hmmmm...but I am sure they will want to talk to me when I get a BFP

kndeckar · March 2010

Yes I feel this way a lot! I hate that miscarriage is such a "taboo" topic. I feel like I can't talk to anyone about it because it brings the whole mood down.........

soldiersgirl11 · March 2010

That sucks! I am definitly avoided more now by coworkers etc, but my friends have so far stayed pretty true.. that said none of them are pregnant.

jen629 · March 2010

I guess my thing is my whole life isn't about pregnancy you have NOTHING else you can talk to me about..??..that's sad.....and really the only thing anyone has to say to me is I am sorry .... I guess we are going to the delete button again:)

KristysRedBarn · March 2010

I'm sorry. I had "friends" like that, and I didn't think they acted that way because they didn't know what to say, but it almost seemed like they though m/c was contagious. Like if they associated with me, talked to me, it might happen to them too.

jen629 · March 2010

KristysRedBarn:
I'm sorry. I had "friends" like that, and I didn't think they acted that way because they didn't know what to say, but it almost seemed like they though m/c was contagious. Like if they associated with me, talked to me, it might happen to them too.

Exactly!

jen629 · March 2010

maybe I will put this as my FB status "Jennifer is contagious if you talk or God forbid look at her you too will contract Faulty Uterus Disease" bwhahaha

ColindaP · March 2010

Yep, in fact I just posted the other day about my pg friend who admitted to DH the other day that she feels weird hanging out with me now. To which he told her this is hard enough already and if she really cares, the last thing she should be doing is shutting us out.

It does suck. As much as it stings to be around pg women all the time, it stings even more when they drop you like a hot potato. I know that the fact that my friends' pregnancies stings is nothing personal and I will get over it, and that at the end of the day my love for them is greater than my selfishness about pregnancy. Damn it would be nice sometimes if others could do hte same.

butterfly843 · March 2010

I was just thinking about this, I have been so hurt lately with people I thought I was close with avoiding me since my loss. I wanted to post something in my status in fb about it to see if they got the point. The one that really hurts is someone who I have known for about 11 years and he was like an uncle to me and he never mentioned my loss and we haven't really talked since.

BeachCole · March 2010

I don't have pregnant friends that I am close with, but I have felt like that since the m/c anyhow. I get that people don't know what to day, but it hurts so bad that it feels like they don't want to try. I'm still me, you know? I'm so sorry you're having to deal with so called friends like that. You are fabulous and I'm sorry you aren't getting the same support from them that you gave them.

jen629 · March 2010

It just sucks because I always am the shoulder for everyone else and so what if I did need to cry you can't be there for me?....I need to re-evaluate my friend situation...it has come to a point where I really feel like you guys are my friends and they are not any longer...and I am good with that .. I love you guys:)

Steph0925 · March 2010

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'm sure the pregnant ones who have never had a m/c just don't know what to do. The ones that have had a past m/c or even IF just do not have an excuse. They should know the right things to say and do based on how they felt. Unfortunately maybe you just have to try to reach out to them. I don't know - just a thought. It sucks to have to say to someone that you want to hear from them about their life - they should just be comfortable enough to share and let YOU tell them when you don't want to hear about a certain subject.

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