I just don't understand the MIL drama

reynah · October 2008

Everyday, I read somewhere on the bump about people complaning about MILs. Sometimes, I can understand, but a lot of the time I read women just getting so mad at the smallest things. Maybe there is more to the story that they don't post, but geez, it just makes me worry b/c I have 2 boys and what if I get an over-sensitive DIL that doesen't want me around their child.

IDK, maybe I am over-reacting but hell, some women on here get mad at such small shitt!

mlf625 · October 2008

ditttttto. i usually end up feeling sorry for the mils. seems like lots of dils just LOOK for drama.

mrsain1105 · October 2008

I don't know, I love my MIL, we are rteally close. But, it still really pisses me off when she gives unsolicited parenting advice. So, I can relate to those posts.

Abby'sMommy · October 2008

Some stuff would bother me, but maybe I am that one-in-a-million person, and love my MIL.

chalmette · October 2008

I used to hate mine - now I love her. I, too, fear that I will not be allowed to touch my future gc b/c my boys will marry mean biitches.

Tricia107 · October 2008

I love my MIL, I wish we were in a better situation right now so we could take DD to go meet her grandma

jlb7640 · October 2008

My MIL and I have a very Long history of her doing horrible stuff to me. I am not good enough for her perfect son. #1 reason is she refused to take me to the me to the ER when I was extremely sick in a foreign country. Told me I was ruining the trip when I had a 104 degree temperature. DH took me and I was admitted to the ICU and spent a week in the hospital. She never visited me once.
So, when I post about "little things" it is because I am so over having a good relationship with her that anything sets me off.
I know you could have known all that but that is why I vent away.

ali-1411 · October 2008

Ah, well...my MIL is spawn of Satan himself. Even DH can't stand her. That's the exception though, I guess, because she truly is a horrible person.

reynah · October 2008

I am not in love with my MIL either. And whether we like it or not, they are a grandparent, so we do have to share our kiddos so they can have a good relationship with them, even if we don't. Unless, they are just crazy or something. Just my thought on it anyway.

jessluvsjoe · October 2008

I agree. For the most part I cannot stand my MIL mostly due to the fact that she condones the shiit my SIL says and does to me and DH. HOWEVER, she is DH's mom and so I overlook a lot b/c I would hate if DH disliked my mother (even if she was a biitch like MIL). 90% of the time she irks the crap out of me but bottom line is that she's in my life for better or worse and I'll be the bigger person in the relationship (and just complain to my mom) b/c I dont' want to make it hard on DH to have a relationship with his family.

jlb7640 · October 2008

Due to how my ILs behaved with me being sick and even refused to take my BIL to the hospital when he broke his arm when he was 12 (he took himself); they will never be allowed with DD alone

cwhip77 · October 2008

I'm guessing there's more to the story when girls freak out about little things. Sometimes MIL does stuff that normally wouldn't be a big deal if someone else did it, but other problems with boundaries and such make me quicker to get irked than I might normally.

But, ya definitely have to learn to pick your battles when family is involved.

ascbride · October 2008

My SIL has said she will never leave her kids alone with MIL and won't tell me why, for this reason, MIL will not be with DD by herself. I mean if her own daughter has concerns ...

CrystalDaun · October 2008

I've only had a few issues w/ my MIL I feel very lucky to have her. Luckily whenever she does something out of line DH is willing to mention it to her. The only thing she does on a weekly basis that is annoying (but I just act like I don't hear her) is she calls Amber her baby instead of her GC. We had issues when we got married & for the baby shower but that's cause MIL owns the banquet hall and acted as if she were in charge of everything and no decisions were for us to make. whenever I need her she's there & she treats me great though so I guess I'm very lucky too.

Ciconrad · October 2008

Some women like to create drama with their MIL...but mine is really and truly insane. I complain about her to vent but I have never actually had an argument with her or created drama. I just quietly vent on here or to my DH and move on. I am so not into creating hurt feelings amongst family.

Mrs Manners · October 2008

I posted the EXACT same thing on the 6-12 board about a week or so ago. Someone was complaining about her MIL and it just seemed so stupid and petty. DS is probably going to be an only child so I'll probably be "that MIL" someday.

Mini_Mariah · October 2008

I have two MILs. Step-MIL is awesome. I love her to death, she is so kind and generous. I often wish she were DH's mom, and I am sure DH feels the same way. She married FIL when DH was 5 so she's been a huge influence in his life. Sometimes she does some minorly annoying stuff (mainly is overly generous with the child-rearing advice) but I just brush it off.

MIL, on the other hand, is thoroughly insane. If all the attention isn't centered on her, she throws a fit. She caused huge headaches with our bridal shower, then threatened not to come to our wedding, then threatened to come and cause a scene. She lives an hour away but hasn't seen DD since she was 6 days old - threw a fit about us spending time with FIL's family. So I can see why some nesties vent about their MILs. Since mine's MIA, I don't have to worry about her. But I vented a lot as a knottie.

KittenGator · October 2008

I agree, some are overboard but some (like poor SM) are definitely warranted. That lady is a psych-o.

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