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Head, Meet Desk.
Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.
My inlaws are being asshats. HUGE asshats.
I spent the last 2 hours crying on DH's shoulder over their craap. If it weren't for DH, I'd still be crying. He gave me a massive peptalk & lots of hugs. And assured me that I did nothing wrong to deserve this.
What hurts the most, is my MIL was the "voice" for the 2 of them. I consider her one of my bestfriends, and admire her a great deal. And what she said was very wrong. And very upsetting.
Am I wrong, to think that I should remove her from my FB right now? Because, appearently, almost everything I say on there is hurtful to the 2 of them (MIL & FIL). I shouldn't have to look over my shoulder and worry about offending them.
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Re: Head, Meet Desk.
Agree with Pixy.
Posts on cloth trainers/PLing
Mother's Day, 2011
I was trying to think of what you've said on FB could be considered REMOTELY offensive and there's only one thing...if that's it, then I agree that they are asshats and don't deserve to see your wall if they are going to get mad at you for it.
Sure, my BIL says a lot of things I don't agree with, but I respect that it's how he feels. I talk/vent about it with DH, and move on. They should have the same respect for you. Kuddos to your DH for what he did. That's what we keep them around for, isn't it?
I agree completely about limiting their access. Hmmm...I think you can even cut them off from photos.
I'm so sorry that people you love and respect have behaved so hurtfully towards you. That just isn't fair and you deserve better.
Well, I suppose now is as good a time as any to let you know that talking about dinner, Dr. Pepper, and knitting are HIGHLY offensive. I've been hurting for a very long time because of your facebook posts pertaining to said subjects.
I know I should have told you sooner, but really. You should know these things without me having to tell you.
j/k
It sounds like they're being morons. I'm sorry you're hurt...again...by them.
thanks, Ladies.
This is appearently them still upset over January, and blaming me.
You know, because when DH's friend & LE brother is murdered on duty, DH is a 1st responder, a child of mine develops anxiety issues stemming from the murder, and we're in a terrible dark place with fragile emotions, we should have asked them if they would like to go to the funeral instead of asking if they could take the kids out of the area and away from everything. Because, in FIL's words, "it would have been really cool to see all the different policemen."
I think I'd post the address to the state police headquarters on my FB wall, with their office hours. Then suggest that if anyone wants to see all the different policemen (really cool!), to head on over any day of the week.
Moron.
Oh, it's gets better. Or worse, however you want to put it.
Lemme see...
I bought a laptop that I researched and picked out (this is where my FB status hurt them. I posted a link to the computer I wanted), without asking for FIL's advice. And, it's *GASP!* a different brand than what he bought DH & SIL. I was very vocal as to why I didn't want a Dell. And when DH's whole computer had to be replaced within 2 weeks of receipt, because it didn't read the charger or any other external device, I didn't say anything. But I must have been thinking I told you so.
We went up to visit, and I showed SIL & MIL my new laptop and offered to let FIL play on it. So I was appearently flashing it around.
Xavian opted to not go to the auction w/ DH & FIL on Sat, so I must have not let him. It didn't matter that I was asleep when DH asked him if he wanted to go. I must be turning Xavian against is gpa.
When I talked to MIL the other day, she said SIL was eating dinner at her boyfriend's house for Easter. And I said that J was working, so we would be doing dinner later, like 1pm, & I'm inviting the neighbor's over too, since we have the seating w/out SIL. I said I'll call her back later w/ the details. I ASSUMED that she understood that they were invited. I always invite them. It's a 100% given. I hung up the phone planning Easter dinner.
When DH & FIL pulled in the driveway from the auction last Sat, I was upset that they were late. But I was cool and collected. The kids made a mad dash for the door, & I stopped them & said, "I don't want you near dad & gpa while they unload the machinery. It's not a place for kids right now." FIL came in the house with me to see the kids after it was unloaded, and Xavian says, "Mom doesn't want us near you." FIL says FINE! and turns around and slams the door on his way back out. I was embarrassed, ran after him and apologized.
I thought everything was fine, and made mention of being excited for MIL to see the batheroom redo on Sunday at Easter dinner. FIL says I didn't invite them. I apologized and explained that it must be a misunderstanding, and that I would call MIL & apologize.
No one answered the phone until today. And then they proceeded to tell me that I'm using the kids to hurt them. And the above listed (minus the January business) were the reasons they gave. And that I have been mean and hurtful with my actions.
I know I didn't do anything wrong. but at the same time, I feel like some terrible person.
Some people have issues that no amount of tissues can fix.
This. (((hugs)))
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This. So sorry!