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joseysbride
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Hypothetical question/poll for moms with circumcised boys
joseysbride
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Your son is now two years old, and his doctor has said that during the circumcision when he was a newborn, not enough was taken off and the skin has completely reattached.
ETA: The doctor told them that it is completely unnecessary, health-wise. It would be fine either way. One parent wanted it re-done, the other didn't.
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Re: Hypothetical question/poll for moms with circumcised boys
It'd depend on if there were any potential problems/risks from leaving it re-attached. I know there's no risk w/ not doing a circ initially, but my concern would be anything that would happen because of it being botched in the first place.
If there is a risk/potential problem, re-done. If not, not re-done.
This.
Sorry, I should have added that. The doctor told them that it is completely unnecessary, health-wise. It would be fine either way. One parent wanted it re-done, the other didn't.
In this case, I would leave it as is.
hmm, I change my vote from other to no then - but I would also be willing to listen to MH if he felt strongly about re-doing it. I mean obviously you had it done for a reason in the first place.
So, there's no health risk to leaving it as is, right? Yet, as with any surgery, there is definitely a risk (infection, anesthesia) to performing the procedure. In addition to cutting off part of his penis once, you want to go back for a second turn at it?!? Leave the poor kid alone!
My 4 year old son's ears stick out (a lot!) and most people - even those people who think this is okay - would consider it horrible and abusive if I took him to get them fixed, right?
I know this is a little strong, but I'm bewildered at people who would voluntarily put their two year old in such a horrible circumstance for nothing other than aesthetics!
Well I voted no once knowing there was no risk leaving it as is, however, I am sure there are plenty of reasons beyond aesthetics to re-do it even though I would likely choose not to.
I would assume if you were Jewish, you would have it re-done. I assume if you had a reason for doing it in the first place you'd seriously consider re-doing it.
Personally, I'm bewildered by people who care what other people decide to do w/ relation to their kid's penis.
Of course I care about other people?s kids! How could you not care about other people?s kids?? Do you live in a bubble? I?m a firm believer in ?it takes a village?? I have stopped kids from running into the street, from falling off the playground and from hitting other kids? and I hope that if I was going to treat my kids poorly, that someone would step in to help them. I also hope that all kids are raised by sane, reasonable people who don?t want to cut off their body parts - however small and ?unnecessary? those parts may be.
Lastly, I think the Jewish tradition is horrendous and a growing number of my family does as well ? and we are NYC Jews ? as Jewish as you can get outside of Israel. And lest you think we?re all radical, my sister and BIL have circed their kids.
I look at it this way - it?s also tradition in many countries to marry off 13 year old girls to middle aged men; until only a couple decades ago, it was tradition to only marry within your race; polygamy is still tradition in many areas, footbinding was traditional, etc.? So, I?m all for replacing tradition with common sense.
Woah. Wait. Did you really just compare someone's personal choice of to circ or not circ, to stopping another child from running out into the street??
Yeah, okay. Whatever you say. I don't need a village to determine what to do with my child's penis.
Look, I care about kids. I do not care if they are circumcised if that's what their parents decide. I think there are valid points on both sides of the circ debate, and I think people who demonize it are extremists who will never win anyone over in an argument. ETA: I also think on the other side of the debate that people who say "it looks funny" or "i wouldn't want to sleep with an uncirc'd dude! ew!!" are dumb and won't win any arguments.
It's a personal decision, whether for religious or for other valid reasons. I think your time would be better spent worrying about kids who are hungry, or abused, or any other manner of issues over circumcision, but hey, whatever floats your boat.
That's interesting. I've heard from both a male and female pedi that re-attachment can cause painful erections in the future. I don't really know anyone I can question to test this theory, however.
One of my brothers was recircumcised for the same reason (when he was 4).
I agree with this.
Interesting. All I know about the issue is what I've typed here. If it wasn't evident, one of my friends is facing this right now, and I was just curious as to what others would think or do. My dh and I both said leave it be if it isn't going to cause problems.