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5 yo tantrums - please help
dd is 5.5. she is a good kid at friends' houses (usually) and at school. but sometimes at home she is seriously out of control BAD - screaming, throwing things, talking back to me (like fingers in her ears "I can't hear you" type behavior), etc. I know she knows right from wrong. I know she's a good kid. But these tantrums are killing me. Today she flipped out over a toy her sister (2.5) took from her. I was literally telling dd2 that she couldn't have the toy when dd1 LOST IT. That resulted in a 45 minute tantrum. There was no calming her down, no rationalizing, nothing. It's making me crazy. I know it happnes more often when she's tired or bored but neither of those really apply today. We had just come home from a fun trip to the store (picking out Easter decorating supplies) and she got a great night's sleep . Is it the age? I feel like she's getting worse as she gets older, not better. HELP PLEASE.
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Re: 5 yo tantrums - please help
My son is the same age and we've been having some of the same behavior. 5-year-olds don't know how to control their emotions, so every little thing that bothers them spins out of control. We put DS in his room when he has a meltdown. When he stops screaming, crying, whatever, we go in and talk to him about what is bothering him and how he can handle things better. We role play situations that bother him. For example, he would always flip out when he was at my parents and it was time to leave. So we walked through the whole situation, why he doesn't want to leave, why we need to, what should he say when we go, etc. We agreed that when we leave, we should always decide when he can come back next, so he has some control.
You know I just think that we (as a whole) expect a lot out of kids that are still really young and developing. It's hard as adults at times to manage our emotions so it must be, and seems as if, at these young ages it creeps up every now and then and they spazz. My DD is a great kid but even at 6.5 every so often she has a mental breakdown over something small. The majority of the time she is such a big girl 1st grader then BAM she'll wig out over nothing...and it seems so weird because she is not a baby or toddler so the tantrum seems extreme but the fact is that she is still learning how to manage her emotions. It will get better but even 10 year olds melt down now and then.
Hang in there!
Do you think she might be coming down with something? I swear that when my DD has as melt down like it always means she's about to be sick.