Anyone else's MIL just says lots of little annoying things?

KateLouise · March 2010

So my MIL just says lots of annoying little things but over the last few weeks I'm getting to want to scratch her eyes out.

It started off with her cooing to my daughter that she was too hot and that didn't Mummy know to dress her in less. That didn't Mummy know she was hungry and why wouldn't Mummy feed her more.

Then they've been out of the blue questions about whether my stomach is flat yet, or if I'm back to my normal weight (asked while right next to me, so uhhh yeah if you have to ask, the answer is no)

Insisting that I have to just drag LO out and about and make her get used to life (this started when she was 2 days old and all power to anyone who was out and about with their LO but it took me a couple of weeks to start to feel confident with her)

Most recently she cornered DH and started lecturing him on how we had to remember we'd have to get rid of her dummy one day.

So as you can see, each of the things is not hugely offensive, but when you add them all up and then add in that she hasn't once said, "you guys are doing a good job" or anything vaguely supportive or encouraging, I'm just sick of her and dread having contact with her.

Anyone else dealing with this? If she was more overtly rude I'd happily tell her where to get off, but it's all so minor and subtle that it feels pointless to make a fuss over it because it's just how she is.

sleepingbeauty825 · March 2010

My in-laws will ask me every time they see me if his eyes have changed yet. And then they comment on how pretty blue they are. I'm like A. Why don't you look for yourself? And B. They still look like newborn eye color! Dang! Its so annoying!

mara005 · March 2010

My MIL is SO rude, and beyond annoying! Don't know how I am surviving the 2 weeks they are staying with us, 7 days and counting till they leave!

mandeline21 · March 2010

You've just described my MIL, to a T. She's super passive-aggressive, so I sometimes question if she really meant it the way I interpret it, but because of our history, I have to assume she's being rude/snide/condescending.

Mrs.BoomBoom · March 2010

Mine calls him "her" baby

Has talked o him all about how he needs to start walking...really? can we please just enjoy this stage?

Wants to skype with him at 10pm

gogoamy · March 2010

my mil is completely passive aggressive and dh does not see it at all. she is always making comments about everything, i can't think of too many specifics right now off the top of my head except for my personal favorite: dh and i went to his parents for a week at christmas. mil had already been asking since basically the day we told them i was pregnant if i was planning to bf, and i made it pretty clear that we'd be formula feeding. so one night sil made steaks for everyone for dinner, and they came out pretty rare. mil asked me if it was too rare for me, and i responded by saying that i was fine with eating it as long as it was ok and wouldn't harm the baby. her response? "well amy, if you were really worried about what was best for the baby, you would breastfeed." what?!?! she said this at the dinner table. with everyone listening. pretty special, huh?

jeeanfoxy · March 2010

i'm also dealing with this. my MIL annoys me sometimes because she makes me feel like i'm not doing a good job at being DD's mother.

hazy19 · March 2010

I wish I could quote everyone. What happens when you become a MIL it's like they're all the same...and all crazy!!!

ella.mabel · March 2010

I wonder what would happen if you would call her on it and say "Do you think i'm a bad mother? You seem to make a lot of comments." Maybe it might make her feel uncomfortable enough to stop.

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