I schedule my life around my beta.
My MIL just asked if I wanted to go with them to our nephews 1st bday party on April17. 
I declined because (i didnt tell her this, but..) if we do our FET on the 5th, my beta will be on the 18th and I am definately not holding out on testing this time.
If its negative, the last thing i was to do is drive across the state and cooo over babies.
 8-11-09: IUI #4 (FSH   hCG)  BFP .... 9-08: C/P
6-19-09: IUI #3 (FSH   hCG)   BFN
5-28-09: IUI #2 redo (FSH   hCG)   BFN
5-08-09: HSG: All clear!
4-21-09: IUI #2 canceled (clomid reaction)
4-1-09: IUI #1 (natural)  BFN
9/08: S/A less than 5mil (10% mobile) -varicoseal surgery to fix...results worth it!
5/06: Endometriosis surgery                                                 9/07: off of BCP
A rejection is Gods protection. A dissapointment is His reappointment
8-11-09: IUI #4 (FSH   hCG)  BFP .... 9-08: C/P
6-19-09: IUI #3 (FSH   hCG)   BFN
5-28-09: IUI #2 redo (FSH   hCG)   BFN
5-08-09: HSG: All clear!
4-21-09: IUI #2 canceled (clomid reaction)
4-1-09: IUI #1 (natural)  BFN
9/08: S/A less than 5mil (10% mobile) -varicoseal surgery to fix...results worth it!
5/06: Endometriosis surgery                                                 9/07: off of BCP
A rejection is Gods protection. A dissapointment is His reappointment
Re: Confession...
no no... your situation is completely understandable, too!
I would want to be prepared for the week... its like you get all the time off THEN the test. If only it could be before (either to be estatic and e-dream looking at baby stuff...or to gather your emotions)
hahaha... i use to get so mad when my dad would 'pop over' during fertile time.
i understand completely!
I hope this is the best bday your dh will ever have!
Ok, good!
I just feel bad because i know how much i'd love to see the family and be there... but i'm just too scared.
That is totally understandable. I haven't had a beta yet, but I totally see myself as the type of person that would be right there with you. I agree with the other posters, when we're making plans to go do something, I think about where I'd be at in my cycle.
IVF #1 w ICSI in July 2010 = BFN
IVF #2.1 in Oct 2010 converted to IUI = BFN
IVF #2.2 w ICSI in Dec 2010 = BFN
Met with new RE in new city on 1/31/11.
IVF #3 w ICSI in April 2011. HPT on 5/9 = BFP!
Beta #1 on 5/10 (10dp5dt) = 99.4. Beta #2 on 5/12 = 284. First u/s on 5/26. = Fraternal TWINS!
Twin boys born & lost on 8/16/11 at 18w1d due to PPROM & preterm labor.
IVF #4.1 in Jan 2012 converted to IUI on 1/7/12 = BFN
IVF #4.2 w ICSI in Feb 2012. Lupron on 2/10. Stims on 2/18. ER on 2/29- 7R,6F
ET scheduled for 3/5/12- nothing to transfer
Dh seeing new MFI uro & Dh starting meds- June 2012.
IVF #5 in Dec 2012 = BFFN.
IVF #6 planned for Spring 2013. Praying for our take home baby/ies.
**P/SAIF and P/SAL always welcome!**