holding LO too much??

Keb2127 · March 2010

I hold him while im eating, getting dressed, cleaning, and he naps during the day on my chest. I try to put him down in his crib and he wants nothing to do with it. He immediately starts crying. He sleeps in a bassinet at night right next to my bed. Everyone thinks I'm spoiling him but I just don't want him to cry. I try to let him "self soothe" but he just works himself up that I am too weak and give in. I know that if things continue he will become a brat and I will really be kicking myself.

rodgersonmumma · March 2010

IMO you cant hold a baby too much at that age. They crave the comfort only you can give. You have a few months before you need to worry about letting him 'self soothe'. Dont listen to other people, its your baby and you know what is right for him.

chazzgirl · March 2010

I am curious what others say, because I'm in a similar situation! I can get about 30 minutes shifts in the swing or bouncy chair though.....

I don't want to spoil him......but when do you let them CIO??

SigmundsGirl · March 2010

My pedi told me that you can't spoil a newborn. He said we will be having a different conversation at his 2 month checkup. Until then I will do what I can to help my little guy make this huge transition.

And every now and then, I put him in his carseat, bassinett, or bouncy chair and let him cry. I can't hold him 24 hours a day. I do have to make myself lunch or use the bathroom. I figure he will be that much more happy when I pick him back up.

mishee10 · March 2010

I don't think you can hold a baby too much at this age, but you will never have anytime to get anything done. Do you have a swing or bouncy chair? My DD always needs to be moving, and before the swing and chair she always had to be held.

sarajo317 · March 2010

Babies go from being "held" in your womb for 9 months.. to being shot out and into this cold world! IMO they NEED to be held a lot until they can teach themselves to self soothe.. my DD is 2 months and we still hold her all the time.. she just getting to where she is starting to attempt to self soothe herself..

heatherh43 · March 2010

I hold my DS all the time. I am able to put him down to take naps but the second he cries I am at his side. I hold him til he falls asleep. I also have people telling me that I need to put him down and I'm spoiling him, but I just ignore them. They dont know what my DS needs, only I do, so hold away IMO mommy! happy babies make happy mommies...and if your LO is happy when you are holding him, hold away!

bhawk0527 · March 2010

I keep telling myself its ok because Im never gonna get those precious moments back holding my baby. Smile

DD would do a "I'm falling" kind of jerk so I found it was easier to gently put her down and lay her arms down for her and leave my hand on her for a bit like I was still holding her. GL

emmyloustu · March 2010

No such thing as holding a baby too much or spoiling a newborn. They NEED to be close to you, feel and hear your heartbeat, smell your smell etc... Please hold and snuggle him as much as possible. Before long, he won't sit still long enough.

Get a Moby wrap - it will free up your hands to get things done and DS will be comfy and content.

terrahill09 · March 2010

I understand. If one more person tells me I'm going to spoil my baby, or that she has "lap-itis" I'll slap them. lol You cant spoil a newborn. I hold Maddy a lot but I put her in her bouncy chair (esp if she has gas, the vibrations help), her swing, or her playmat and she likes those too for a little while. The bouncy seat is the one she will stay in longest. Or her Boppy if she's napping. Try those things if you have them.

Also, hold your baby with a blanket around them and when you put them down (esp in a boppy), they usually wont realize they arent being held by you. You gotta trick them.

Sawyerplus1 · March 2010

I think it's important to hold your baby as they need you, but it is also ok ?to put them down when they're content, and they need to learn that they're ok, too. DD is fairly needy but I CANT hold her all the time when I have a house to run and a rambunctious toddler to take care of. Sometimes she cries, but she's fine. In your case, keep trying to put him down, especially times when he's most content (such as after a meal). And when he's napping, after he's asleep on your chest, put him down.?

He may become too used to being held, which could cause problems, or he could develops his own sense of independence and never want to cuddle again (ha! like my DS).

Good luck?

Ivana_Stolichnaya · March 2010

Babies are use to constant contact at that age. I wouldn't worry too much. My daughter is almost 6 months old and I still like to carry her around, I can't help it, she's so squeezable!

Keb2127 · March 2010

thank you so much ladies!! i do put him in his boppy to nap for a little. i know when he is about 4 months old it will be different and i will put him down for a morning/afternoon nap. but i know that im NOT crazy for holding him all the time. esp since his daddy isnt around i feel like i need to do it double time. plus he is so darn cute when he is drooling on my shirt while he is sleeping Big Smile

lulupinkerton · March 2010

Two words- Moby wrap.

Dr.Loretta · March 2010

He's a month old. He won't become a brat unless you're still doing this when he's a year old.

Tell "everyone" to STFU.

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