I wrote a long post but I will be concise instead.
DH picked Isaac. It happens to be what my sister wanted hypothetically. DH did not know this, but when I told him, he insisted he still wanted the name. He loves the name, too. Its his first son and its what he wants.
I am struggling with how to tell my sister. I don't want the conversation to end in tears or us not talking or years of resentment. I don't want to tell her on the phone, but I am sick of not having told her yet. Like, literally, it makes my heartburn hurt just thinking about it.
So hopefully there is someone on here who has some friendly advice for this "problem". Yes, I realize there is no way out without hurt feelings, but I really do want to minimize it and find the most gracious way of explaining to her that I am not "stealing" her name on purpose. And yes, I know how she is going to feel from personal experience.