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Absentee Baby Shower

LolaLoCascioLolaLoCascio
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Has anyone ever heard of an "absentee baby shower"? A friend of mine knows someone who recently sent out invitations for one, and we were both kind of shocked. Basically it was an invitation asking people to send gifts. Not only did this couple have a shower which was thrown by their in-town friends (their family is out of state), but they make a good living and don't need a handout financially. Personally I found this to be tacky but I would love to hear some other peoples opinions on the matter...
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  • rachelxx05rachelxx05 member

    If their family is out of state, they could send gifts for her to open at the shower her friends had. 

     The only way I think this would be ok is if they had no family or no friends nearby.  My bff's SIL is alone on a base somewhere and her DH is deployed.  BFF was worried she wouldn't get a shower (first baby, too) but she came home and her family had one for her and her dad drove the stuff down for her.  Instances like that, if she couldn't make it home, are ok.  JMO.

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  • ballerina06ballerina06 member
    In the situation you described I think it is extremely tacky.  I would be very offended to get something like that in the mail and I can guarantee you I would not send a gift.
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  • CER+MELCER+MEL

    I thought this was going to be a shower in which the mother couldn't make it due to bed rest or something.  However, this sounds really tacky to me as well.  Why not just send out invitations to the actual shower knowing most if not all OOT guests won't make the trip?  At least then the guests are offered something in exchange for the gifts.  Or maybe have a family member send out a casual email saying they wouldn't be having a shower in town but listing where they're registered so those interested could send gifts?  An invitation to a non-existent event for the sake of gifts...not cool.

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  • MrsPattersonMrsPatterson member
    I have only heard of something like this once and it was when the mom-to-be's mother lived on the other side of the country but still wanted to throw her a shower.  The mom-to-be was web-cammed in for the whole shower and her mom opened the gifts for her.  So these were pretty extenuating circumstances.  What you've described sounds so tacky! 
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  • mitzibmitzib
    Surprise  are you kidding me!  This would only be acceptable if she was on strict bedrest!
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