Crying over spilled milk

GypsyEsq · March 2010

I'm in such a bad mood today ladies. What follows is a DH vent...you were warned...

I dumped roughly 8 ounces of pumped milk this morning. Why? Because last night when I got home from work I did what I always do, change clothes and nurse DD. Then DH does what he usually does - get on the computer. But then I asked, like I do every night, if he could unpack my work bag and put the pumped milk away and take the pump parts out to wash. This part is always his job. He's always done it. Last night he takes the milk cooler out and is putting away the milk and says "oh, DD didn't drink much today. She still has 8 ounces left over. What should I do? " Well that 8 ounces was pumped Friday so I say, "oh that needs to be frozen. can you freeze it?"

He didn't. And this morning when making my coffee I see those 8 ounces and think...well, surely it's not bad. But I'll check it. I drank some and ya, it's bad. It was sour. I know what good BM tastes like. This was gag worthy. And it's bad because I know how DH treats it -- heating it and leaving it out....and leaving it out...and keeping it in the door of the fridge. And even though that's not the way you *should* treat BM, I'm ok with that because he just doesn't focus on how to handle BM but is otherwise a great Dad. And I know how hard it is to be at home alone with DD all day... But what I'm not ok with is him not freezing those damn 8 ounces yesterday when they were still good! And having to dump it this morning. And rationally I know that they could have been just as spoiled yesterday but I doubt they were.

It's just so hard to keep pumping some days. I hate it. I hate pumping. It reminds me, three times a day, that I'm at work and not at home. That I'm teetering on the edge of running out because my supply has sucked since the plugged duct extravaganza, and well...c'mon who actually enjoys pumping? Damnitall...it's such a beautiful spring day and I'm in a horrible mood.

If you made it this far thank you. Thank you for letting me vent.

jmkatz · March 2010

I would totally cry about that too! I'm so sorry.

I hate hate hate pumping at work too. It sucks, and I agree - it is reminder that we aren't with our babies. I'm sorry you are having supply issues, too - that doesn't make it any easier at all.

madhatter2003 · March 2010

I'm sorry. We've had similar stories in our house. DH learned he does NOT mess with the milk, but I feel your pain.

kimarino13 · March 2010

I have cried over 2 oz, so I would definitely cry over 8. That's a lot. I am so sorry.

firsttogo · March 2010

That is certainly cry worthy!

I remember LOSING it when DS1 was like a week old. I pumped every 2-3 hours for 24 hours, and had 1/2 an oz total on the coffee table, as I was taking apart the pump. Our dog walked by and his tail sent my treasure flying. I was a MESS!

ejgballerina · March 2010

I would TOTALLY be the same way if I were you. I found a bottle of pumped milk on the floor of my car that must've fallen out of my fridge bag from work and it was totally spoiled and I balled. I loathe pumping and one year cannot come soon enough so I can stop. I feel your pain. (((HUGS!!)))

cjsbdl · March 2010

Ugh, there is NOTHING worse than wasting pumped milk. We've had similar situations happen in our house and I just remind myself that there's no way DH can possibly understand how precious that stuff is to me.

Like you I have a wonderful husband who is very involved in taking care of our baby, but sometimes it's the little things that send you over the edge.

MBandBud · March 2010

Ugh this is such a mix of emotions, between hating pumping, memories of issues with BF, and DH not doing the dang one thing you asked him. I'm sorry you are having a rough day. ((Hugs))