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CIO=fail

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I f eel like the worst mom ever... not because i tried cry it out, but because i didnt follow through with it... after 7 minutes i had to rip her out of the crib and hold her... she was sobbing and shaking it was so sad!  i give moms credit who can follow through with it, i know its best for many babies and i know if she slept better at night she would feel great but i just cant do it!!! i feel horrible for making her do it for no reason but i just couldnt stand it anymore! ughhhhhh im a bad mommy!!! 
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Re: CIO=fail

  • AbinormalAbinormal member
    You're not a bad mommy at all. This is the one reason why I am dreading LO turning 4 months old. DH really thinks we should let her CIO for naps and I am just not ready to listen to her cry. I feel really guilty about this, but I'm kinda glad that he stays home with her 2 days a week because if we have to do CIO (we are currently trying other methods) he can do it and I can pretend like it isn't happening. Now, that makes me a bad mommy!
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  • jshfjshf member

    I can't stomach CIO either.  When DS was very little, I thought I would do it.  But once he turned 4 months, I decided I wasn't ready.  I have been doing more research and some sleep books recommend letting LO CIO but to stay in the room with them and soothe.  At first by patting, shushing, etc and then just shushing and to move further and further away from LO.  They say this gives LO reassurance that you are there for them but also gives them a chance to figure out how to sleep by themselves.  So they are crying not out of fear but out of frustration and being tired.

    BTW:  Most sleep experts suggest sleep training between 4 and 6 months.  So 4 months is the earliest you should start.  If LO is still not ready, meaning their sleep regulatory system is still not mature at 4 months, then I would wait until they are a little older.  How can you tell their sleep has matured enough?  That, I'm still trying to figure out.  But I figure to be on the safe side, I'm going to wait until 6 months.    

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  • krenkren

    Hi!  I know how you feel.  I was totally against CIO, but after my LO started getting up every two hours (after STTN for two months) and would only fall back to sleep if I rocked her, I knew I had to do it.  It was the BEST decision ever.  We started on Friday night and she has been sleeping through the night since.  Yes, the first night was hard and I was sitting there in bed crying....but it does work.  I kissed her goodnight then my husband took her and put her down.  He checked on her at 5 mins, at 10 mins, and then every 10 mins thereafter.  I did not go in since I was the one who always put her to sleep. 

    The first night she cried for 25 mins....and then each night has gotten progressively shorter.  Last night she was down by 8:15 and STTN until 7:30.  She's a totally different baby now...much happier since she's getting her sleep.  The other great thing is that she did wake up once or twice last night but totally fell back to sleep on her own.

    Good luck!!

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