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Vent about Easter...

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Ugh ... My IL's are so freaking strange. 

Last year we TRIED to have a fairly normal easter dinner at my MIL's house - despite having a bucket of chicken for dinner - (seriously, don't get me started) and it turned ugly. 

This year I don't really want to see my BIL/SIL and their bratty children.  I think I want to go down to Leesburg and go to church with Robert's grandma instead, but then I can't offend MIL and not do anything with her because she'll get her damn feelings hurt - I mean really - Easter shouldn't be about this, right??? 

So I think my plan is to make Easter dinner on Saturday - for MIL and us at our house.  We can dye Easter eggs and hide eggs for Avery.  

Then Sunday drive to Leesburg and go to Church with Robert's Grandma and his extended family.  FIL has a stupid dog show to go to so we don't have to worry about having to schedule time for them. 

 

I just want Avery to be able to wear a pretty Easter dress and have a good Easter.  I don't want to deal with the screaming and tantrums from my 3 year old nephews and my 7 year old neice.  

Then MIL can spend the day with BIL/SIL at their house and they can pick up their stupid bucket of chicken for Easter dinner because they are too overwhelmed to cook a real meal - partly because their kids are so damn picky that they won't eat anything but pizza... 

Ugh... these are the times I wish I lived in Portland - it's just EASIER when it comes to the holidays.  It's a given that you get together for Easter as a family and COOK a meal together - it may not be traditional but it's a meal together. 

 

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  • Mrs LouMrs Lou

    As crazy as it is...I totally get the bucket of chicken for dinner... it drives me NUTS!!!! And I get the rest of the gripes my MIL thinks we should spend every holiday with them, and none with my parents...it drives her nuts that I would want to spend time with my family and we can't do both on the same day because its a 2 hour drive to my family....

     

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  • lilcrablegslilcrablegs
    Sounds like a good plan. As long as your DH is on the same page, I don't see why they would have any issues with doing lunch on Saturday.
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  • ameliaandmattameliaandmatt

    I'm sorry you're having such drama over Easter.  That's not what this holiday is about, and I agree that family drama and nit-picking over who sees who on what day is a ridiculous thing to be doing on such an important day. 

    I think your plan of spending Saturday with MIL and Sunday with your H's Grandmother sounds like the best plan.  I hope it all works out for you.

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  • MannaKayMannaKay
    imageMrs Lou:

    As crazy as it is...I totally get the bucket of chicken for dinner... it drives me NUTS!!!! And I get the rest of the gripes my MIL thinks we should spend every holiday with them, and none with my parents...it drives her nuts that I would want to spend time with my family and we can't do both on the same day because its a 2 hour drive to my family....

     

    This! We actually decided to have dinner at our house since Madi is the only grandbaby on either side to avoid the problem. MIL is so demanding and controlliing! She is about to make me lose my marbles! She actually told DH she felt like she was being left out because she hasn't seen Madi in 2 weeks! Are you freakin kidding me?! Sometimes I think she forgets that she isn't the one that gave birth to her!

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  • star21gazerstar21gazer
    I think your plan sounds very good.  After all the stories you have told about your inlaws on here I can totally understand your desire to not spend your holiday with them. 
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  • uagirluagirl member

    I'm so sorry you're having to deal with drama too. I say if DH is onboard with your plan, then go for it.  

    And I think you're right, Easter should be about things like this.  

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  • lisap_30lisap_30
    Your plan sounds good.  My sister doesn't call the IL's the "out-laws" for nothing....  As long as you get to see them all that weekend, I think it's fine = )
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  • kc0721kc0721 member
    Your plan sounds good!!  Like PP stated, from what you've mentioned about the IL's on here, I really think that this is the best idea and good for everyone. 
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  • mrssamuels2bmrssamuels2b member
    go with your gut...your plan sounds great.
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  • Leelee06Leelee06

    imagelilcrablegs:
    Sounds like a good plan. As long as your DH is on the same page, I don't see why they would have any issues with doing lunch on Saturday.

    Ditto.  Sooner or later, she's going to have to understand that she's not the only grandparent and that you want to have your own traditions for YOUR child.  I think we are going to have to deal with this to some extent, too.  Luckily, my in-laws never do anything for Easter and we always spend it with my family.  I just hope the in-laws don't ever want to start b/c I'd have to say no.  It's bad enough we do Christmas with them without a Christmas tree.  

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