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Success after IF
GreenEyedGal
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I can't help but be bitter about this.
GreenEyedGal
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It seems like all of the women who responded were pregnant again.
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/34123528.aspx
I know it's not their fault that they are born fertile but here I am, waiting to even ovulate on my own and these women are getting pregnant again by just laying eyes on their husband.
Please don't get me wrong. I am so thankful that I at least have one (beautiful and healthy) child and that we were able to "easily" conceive him but as I mentioned before, I would love to be pregnant again and have 2 under 2. Although that's not going to happen unless I chalk out more $$$ for medicine, ultrasounds and injections.
PCOS...sucks.
TTC#1=Feb 2009: 50 mg Clomid+Ovidrel shot+Metformin+Dexamethasone+TI=BFP!
TTC#2=July 2011: Surprise BFP: Chemical Pregnancy
TTC#2=July 2011: Surprise BFP: Chemical Pregnancy
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Re: I can't help but be bitter about this.
TTC#2=July 2011: Surprise BFP: Chemical Pregnancy
Both of our first two were conceived with inj/iui. Both on the third cycle treated. Definitely not as difficult as it has been for others on this board, but the trying was certainly difficult to us.
You are not out for a surprise BFP. We wanted more close together, but were not on the market to go back to the RE for a few years. I hoped, but did not count on, it happening. It did for this one.
I am not saying "oh look at me", but I am saying two things:
1. you are not ungrateful at all. My pastor at church said it was like tasting the best icecream in the world. It would not be a sin to want more! There is nothing wrong with wanting a pregnancy that comes easily.
2. It IS a possibility with PCOS. I always ovulated, but not well, (timing, or strength) We were not trying, but not avoiding, or counting on it.
Meh, you can't help but feel a bit bitter. . . I know that I'm struggling with those feelings. We are done. We are not doing IVF again. I never felt good, I got really sick at the end, got PPD. . . and I'm AMA. We are going to love the one we have.
But, that doesn't keep me for being sad that I won't have another baby. There won't be any more firsts, LO won't have a sibling. But, this is our decision. So, I'm trying to work through those feelings.
I think that it is hard when your path to motherhood is harder than "average". Hang in there!
Firsttogo is right...a suprise BFP and 2u2 is possible. I struggled big time to get pregnant with Stella. After 5 failed IUI's we decided to bite the bullet and do IVF. We were so fortunate it worked the first time. Prior to dealing with infertility, I never ovulated on my own. My main issue was PCOS, but I also have a blocked tube and endo. My DH has low morph to boot.
To make a long story short, never in a million years did I think we'd conceive on our own and here I am...4 months pregnant with a surprise LO.
Don't lose hope and don't beat yourself up! The body can do amazing things. PCOS can often go away (at least temporarily) after having a baby, so you just never know what might happen!
Don't beat yourself up over it. IF has taken a lot away from us - the freedom to think that pregnancy=baby, that sex=baby, and more.
I was so blessed to have DD after all the treatment, m/c, and her 6-week premature birth, but never considered myself "cured". I was convinced we would have to go back to treatment, which we didn't have the $$ for. We weren't even trying for #2, I wasn't controlling my PCOS (my bad, I know), was a good 60 days into my cycle when I ovulated without knowing it, and a month later I found myself unexpectedly expecting #2! It CAN happen.
TTC#2=July 2011: Surprise BFP: Chemical Pregnancy