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Can I annul my marriage?

So from what I gather most people are against gay marriage but support civil unions. The most common explanation I've hard is because marriage is considered a religous thing.

So, if I don't want religion being considered as a factor in my partnership with dh can we get our marriage annulled and opt for a civil union instead? If gays are ever allowed to enter into a legally sanctioned civil union, then will heterosexuals also have that option as well?

Re: Can I annul my marriage?

  • Dude, its waaay too early. Go play with your chickens until I have had my coffee
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  • I thought "annulment" WAS a religious thing, not a civil thing???  So if you had a religious ceremony, you need to get THAT annuled AND get a divorce.  If you had a civil ceremony, you just need a divorce.
    Maybe I'm confused by your question.
  • Hhmm, I'm guessing you didn't get married in a Church?  And if you didn't, there is no reason to annul your marriage.  Your marriage isn't recognized by the Church anyway!
  • Annullment, divorce, chose whatever term you feel would be more appropriate. ;-)
  • Nope, didn't get married in a church. Got married by a radical hippy UU minister outdoors on the grounds of a Buddhist mosastary (but not *in* the monastary.)
  • yep, annul is not the same as divorce.

    annul = religious seperation

    divorce = civil seperation.

  • Annul and Divorce are two complete seperate things...
  • and don't straights already have that option?  What is the marriage called when you've lived with someone for x number of years??  Wouldn't that be a civil union, in essence?
  • DandR - I think what you're referring to is a "Domestic Partnership".
    Mia (6~24~06) & Jillian (6~29~09)
  • That's common law marriage, DandR.
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  • Okay, let's rephrase:


    If gays are ever allowed to enter into a legally recognized civil union, should hetero couples also be given that option instead of a traditional legally recognized marriage? And for those who are already legally married, should they have the option of having their marriage legally changed from a marriage to a civil union?
  • I always envisioned it to be the same thing, but different phrasing for each group. I hope that is what it would be.

    Marriage (man/woman) = Civil Union (man/man or woman/woman)

    Mia (6~24~06) & Jillian (6~29~09)
  • Personally the only solution I like is the one I mentioned below.  In Europe, most countries require a civil ceremony for the rights in the eyes of the government and to legally be married.  I wish the US would go to this, and then it would help separate the religious argument from the marriage debate.

    That way, everyone can be married in the eyes of the government, and whatever you do afterward (religious or not) is between you, your spouse and whatever you want (nothing or God or something else).
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  • you can annul a marriage on several very very limited grounds.  it's very hard and is based on your state's law.

    most ppl have to get a divorce.

    common law marriage is recognized only by a handful of states at this point. 

  • right on eclaires! I couldn't agree more.

    or should I have said - darn right!

    Mia (6~24~06) & Jillian (6~29~09)
  • eclaires I think that's a perfect solution.
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  • eclaires, that's always been what I want. I have no problem with having the same legal status and name - that's what this is an issue of. Churches can do whatever they want and call it whatever they want. But in terms of legality and rights, I believe straight and gay couples should have the same.

    Also, why do people always forget that gay marriage (actually called marriage) IS legal in some states and the world has not ended yet.
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  • wait a second eclaires...are you suggesting a seperation of church and state??? GROUND BREAKING!!  and shocking that our wonderful politicians haven't thought of it themselves.
    ;)
    I agree e---that does make the most sense.
  • Well, YES!  I love separation of church and state.  :)

    I wish someone would suggest it that actually has people listening (you know, besides me who has no one listening). 

    The reality is - our system is pretty much like that since the license you get is given by the government and that is what shows you are married in their eyes, but because there is no ceremony, people see it as intertwined with religion since they choose to have a religious ceremony, which is really not the case.

    Just separate the two MORE and make it more distinct, and then the religious people will not have a leg to stand on.
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  • No there are legal grounds for annulments as well.  Varies by state.
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  • Well, mh and I registered as domestic partners (through work) long before we got married in order for me to get benefits through his work. 
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