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WWYD: DH's Bday & 5 week old

HarleyQ8HarleyQ8
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Hey ladies...I would like your opinions here. My DH's bday is coming up in a week. When I asked him what he wanted to do for his bday, the only thing he really wants to do is have a BBQ @ our house. We did this last year and we had about 30 people at our house. My DH doesnt cook or even bbq- this means I would prepare a few side dishes and his cousin would do the actual is grilling. My best friend could come help me with the cleaning before hand.

When he brought this up a few months ago I told him no way. When he brought it up this week I said ok, as long as it was only a small group of people (I am not sure we can agree on what "small" means. 

The more I think about it, the less I like the idea. I am not crazy about the idea of having a group of people in our home, with germs and everything. Besides, I am recovering well, but my c-section wasnt that long ago and I dont know that I am up to everything that a bbq entails. I feel guilty for telling him no since it seems this is what he really wants. WWYD?

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Re: WWYD: DH's Bday & 5 week old

  • dana316dana316 member

    Yeah...that would have been a no-go at my house 5 weeks after my c-section...and there would have been no possible way that I would have let that many people around Caroline at that age.

    Sorry, DH...maybe next year?

     

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  • JustaKidAtHeartJustaKidAtHeart
    Get him to agree on a number then I would do it but have hand sanitizer on every flat surface.  All mine have index cards taped to them that say use me.  hehehe. 
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  • marcuejmarcuej member

    This is such a personal preference, so you have to do what you think feels right.

    We hosted a big family b-day party (for multiple peole) when Stella was a month old.  I felt great and I was happy to have people come over.  With that said, I did very little of the work.  Other people brought food and helped clean up.  I had sanitizer all over the house and it was used if someone held her. 

    All in all it a was a lot of fun and I'm glad we did it.  However, I was a bit nervous about it ahead of time.  Turned out to be way less stressful than I thought.

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  • dundasgirldundasgirl

    We had a baby shower at my house for SIL when Penny was 2 weeks old but I had a vaginal delivery.  I think you can manage if the number of people is reasonable and instead of people bringing gifts for DH, make it a potluck.  Then you don`t have to make any of the food.  Even if you think potluck is tacky....you have a newborn, the rules don`t apply here.

    Otherwise, ask a close friend to host instead.

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