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I need a mental health day. VENT

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So I am beyond angry with my family right now for so many reasons but I will try to keep this short.

First, they planned this trip to San Antonio for my brother's birthday and to see us WITHOUT discussing it with us. Plane tickets purchased, all plans in place, and no one talked to us. I thought it would be fine but they will be staying with the in laws where I will be staying until we move into a new house. Okay fine, whatever, but it is the very weekend we get back. I mean, I want to get settled and get on the house hunting. Nevermind the fact that I don't want them to visit anyway and I want to be left alone. I DO NOT get along with my family and I wish I could cut them out of my life but DH says that having them around is "important for Trig". I disagree totally.

Second, I am still REELING angry for them being "so disappointed" that I am not having a girl. I think it is horribly inappropriate for them to say that to me, and, it's ridiculous anyway because it's not like they're involved in Trig's life anyway, so why do they even care what this baby is????

To top it off, they called me like a BILLION times yesterday to "plan their weekend in San Antonio". Seriously, you never talked about even COMING and now you want me to help plan things? Leave me out of it. 

I am too angry to even call them back right now and I know each passing moment that I don't call them they are going to get more and more angry and I am going to get more angry that they're angry... I just can't deal with this.

And I just got an email from yet another friend that she is getting a divorce. That makes something like 8 of my closest friends going through or have gone through a divorce. It's breaking my heart and I am feeling extremely emotional about it.

Thank you guys for listening. If you have any advice about what I should do with my parents, it's more than welcome. 

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  • rispergirlrispergirl
    It should be your decision, not your DH's, how/whether you choose to interact with your family.  If they are toxic people (and it sounds like they might be to you), then you and Trig might be better off not dealing with them.  If they want you to help plan the weekend, tell them you have plans to get settled and go house hunting so they will have plenty of free time to go sightseeing while they're there!
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  • TheSkimmyTheSkimmy member
    I'm sorry hugs!!! They can do what they want that weekend... you have things planned already!
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  • nicolita14wnicolita14w
    I'm so sorry. I agree with risper that it sounds like Trig may be better off not having them in his life at all, rather than having them there only to disappoint him!
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  • negrilbride07negrilbride07
    Ugh, sorry you're going through this on top of a hectic move.  I agree with Skimmy- they need to plan their weekend without you.
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  • meechrobimeechrobi

    Awww...honey! i am so sorry your family is treating you poorly! I know this is par for the course with them. You are in my thoughts and prayers! You will get through this! Hugs!

    (I promise I will write you back on FB soon! )

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