I love our OT, I'm just not sure I really like this idea. The reason is 95% because of the stigma and probably only 5% because I don't think it'll help. I'm leaning towards telling myself 'get over it'.
To recap, DS will be 4 in July, so he's on the latter end of 3.
My recent question to our OT was WHY OH WHY does it feel like I drag him wherever we go when I am holding his hand? I can't quite allow him to be a good listener and not hold my hand even in a very 'safe' situation. I've always been a little overprotective in that area, but recently when we parked right up next to the curb and I did allow him to get out and 'go straight up to the sidewalk and stop' he BOLTED. I'm talking SCARY BOLTED right up the sidewalk towards the road. I had to run faster than I knew I could to catch him. I stopped him about 4-5 feet short of the ROAD!! Of course, he had a reason, he wanted to see the address.... but there was no stopping him until I caught up with him. SCARY!!!! So, I have to hold his hand.
But, it is just about the most annoying thing I do each day.
DD holds my other hand and she promptly steps up onto sidewalks, bounces along at my pace, and pretty much keeps up. DS pulls, drags, and has to be told over and over multiple times to keep up or walk a little faster...
The OT says he does this because of his low tone. He is trying to support himself and gives in to using ALL the help I am willing to offer. Her first suggestion was to have him hold one finger. That does help some. Then she spoke to a PT friend of hers and they suggest using the leash that attaches to the wrist so he is doing all the work himself.
I think the point is that he is giving in to my help and not supporting his own body when I am holding his hand. The leash (is there a better word?) would help him learn to navigate all the twists, turns, curbs, different surfaces with his own strength instead of relying on me for support.
I get the theory.... but I am ONE OF THOSE MOM'S that just doesn't want to be caught dead with her kid on a leash....... ugh. I mean no harm to anyone who does use them... Im just having a hard time with this suggestion. It's just not a visual that strikes me as real 'typical' and I'm not all that interested in stirring up additional sideways glances.
Is the long term effects of this idea going to outweigh the downside of me putting my almost 4 yr old boy on a leash (yes, I keep calling it that, sorry)?