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"claimed" names

moonfaeriemoonfaerie member
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If your friend, sister, cousin, whatever, likes a name and says they want to use it, does that keep you from considering it? If someone close to me was pregnant the same time I was, and picked a name they are likely using, then I wouldn't consider it. But if this person isn't pregnant and is only speaking in terms of phantom children, then I think it's fair game. WDYT?

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  • wife1014wife1014 member

    Depends on how much I like the person...

    Personally, I think naming "phantom" children is quite strange.

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  • jko123jko123

    imagemoonfaerie:
    If your friend, sister, cousin, whatever, likes a name and says they want to use it, does that keep you from considering it? If someone close to me was pregnant the same time I was, and picked a name they are likely using, then I wouldn't consider it. But if this person isn't pregnant and is only speaking in terms of phantom children, then I think it's fair game. WDYT?

    I agree!

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  • jennicg27jennicg27 member
    If it's just a name they like, thats one thing.  I think it is fair game.  If they have been saying their whole life that they are going to name their child Lauren Marie(just an example), then I would stay away from it unless you want a fight, or even a possible ended relationship because of it.  Girls are crazy sometimes.
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  • krissyh21krissyh21 member
    I don't believe names are copy writed, I would however respect someone who wishes to use a family members name if that person was near and dear to them or something along those lines.
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  • 3littleladies3littleladies
    I personally think calling "dibs" on a name is ridiculous.  My SIL started doing this like 5 years ago and the names always change.  I flat out told her, when you get pregnant then we'll talk.  I'm on my 3rd daughter and we're going to name her what we want.
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  • lilygirllilygirl member
    imagewife1014:

    Depends on how much I like the person...

    I agree - it depends on how close I am to this person. Co-worker? I'm using it. Family or really close friend? Probably off limits.

     

     

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  • lilygirllilygirl member
    imagelilygirl:
    imagewife1014:

    Depends on how much I like the person...

    I agree - it depends on how close I am to this person. Co-worker? I'm using it. Family or really close friend? Probably off limits.

    Oh, and especially because name preferences can change (for some) once its goes from a hypothetical child to someone you're anticipating saddling with the name. KWIM?

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  • klafle3klafle3 member

    imagemoonfaerie:
    If your friend, sister, cousin, whatever, likes a name and says they want to use it, does that keep you from considering it? If someone close to me was pregnant the same time I was, and picked a name they are likely using, then I wouldn't consider it. But if this person isn't pregnant and is only speaking in terms of phantom children, then I think it's fair game. WDYT?

    Agreed! My SIL, who is still in college and not in a steady relationship - nowhere near having kids, has already claimed a name. Luckily I won't have to worry about it, because the name she picked isn't one of my faves and is VERY popular. 

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  • juangelajuangela
    DH and I have always said we'd name a boy Diego. But, now that we are pg, Diego isn't even on our short list. Unless it is something your sister called every baby doll and continues to love to this day, chances are it will change and I wouldn't not consider it.
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  • goodgolliegoodgollie member

    imageheckysue:
    I think it's a respect thing too...if you like the person and they trusted you enough to share with you a name they love, I think there are plenty of other names out there to pick from.  On the other hand I personally just wouldn't have told anyone to begin with if I was serious about using the name.  Plus, it depends on how close you are to the person.  It's a gray area but I think you have to at least have some consideration.

    I completely agree.  Especially about not sharing favorite names. 

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  • LovesPieLovesPie

    I will never understand why its a problem to name your kid whatever you want. So your friend is pregnant and is naming her kid X. Would it be so bad that your children are named X?

    I've had plenty of other friends in my life that have the same name as me. It doesn't matter a bit once they grow older so why should it matter when you are pregnant?

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  • MeanMommyLadyMeanMommyLady member
    My attitude about the whole thing is that it's not a contest to have the kid with the most unique name, odds are that some kid, someplace is going to have the same name as your kid so freaking out about an "off limits" name seems silly to me.
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  • DysonWifeDysonWife
    If we have a child we have names chosen.  My BFF used the boy name we like.  I was irrationally annoyed but it won't stop me from using the name.
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  • LadyXaverianLadyXaverian member
    It depends how close I am to the person. My best friend has told me what names she likes for phantom children, as has my SIL. Even though I love their name choices, I love plenty of other names as well. I wouldn't use the names they have chosen. That's my personal feeling about it. However, if a co-worker, neighbor, someone who goes to our church was using a name that I already loved, it wouldn't stop me from using it.
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