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Am I crazy/ overprotective?
I dont even know that overprotective is even the word I am looking for. I am protective. Can a mother ever BE OVER protective?
ANYWAY, The Teen is 17, She just got home from work and wants to go to her friends house. The friend lives about 4-5 blocks away. It is 10:00 pm. I do not want her walking alone. Period. So, mommy is going to drop her off.
Ashley thinks I am crazy.
Am I? Is that a little too much?
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Re: Am I crazy/ overprotective?
At 17 that would have been crazy for me but I know you have had trust issues with your DD.
At 17 I traveled around europe on a train with my friends for a month.
This has absolutely nothing to do with trust. It has to do with me being worried that a girl walking alone at night is nothing to take lightly.
Word. It has nothing to do with trust. I wouldn't want any woman of any age out walking alone in the dark. It's just not safe.
Thanks. I mean, the thought just makes me want to hurl.
ok, MH just changed his answer and said, no. He wouldn't want me walking out at night that late. There you have it!
::bangs gavel::
Little turd had me almost second guessing myself.
Alex (11/14/06) and Nate (5/25/10)
"Want what you have, do what you can, be who you are." - Rev. Forrest Church
Honestly, my husband doesn't like if I go out at night by myself in my car and we live in a very quiet area.
I won't let my kids, no matter the age, walk around at night by themselves. I'd rather drive them.
We live in a great neighborhood. But bad things happen in good neighborhoods. And, it isnt a small neighborhood--- we live in the Twin Cities.
But how does that work then. You don't consider it safe for any person at all to walk outside when it's dark? (not being snarky. did not grow up in america).
eta: or just women? or just young women?
Shiiiit, we all know I am crazy, and I live in my neighborhood!
MH went further and said, "only men with big dogs should be out walking at that hour." LOL!
I am super paranoid about this type of stuff.
Honestly? No, not alone. Strange shiit happens in the safest neighborhoods in broad daylight, kwim? I just don't think it's wise for anyone, particularly a female, to walk alone at night (okay, even during the day, but I a huge believer in the whole "strength in numbers" thing).
MH would agree w/ that, haha. I don't know - before we lived here we lived in Pleasantville, America, but he was the same. The thing about where we live then and now is that it's very quiet and dark at night - it's not like it's some busy area where people would notice someone being attacked immediately.
I think I would feel safer in a city, where lots of people are and the area is typically more well-lit.
DH and I were together when I was mugged the second time, although it's kind of assy of me to say I was mugged since he was actually the one who got shoved up against a car and his wallet was taken while I freaked out and tried to find my cell phone.
Nope, I don't like the idea of walking around alone at night. Not me, not anyone I love.
I should add, though, that the first time I was mugged it was in broad daylight. I wasn't paying attention to my surroundings at all so I learned a big lesson there. But I never feel safe walking at night any more.
Alex (11/14/06) and Nate (5/25/10)
"Want what you have, do what you can, be who you are." - Rev. Forrest Church
haha!
I feel the same way. I spent two years in zodiac killer country and even though it was a small city, I felt ALOT less safe than in San Diego. Some of my friends would jog in the wee hours in the mother effing woods. Like, straight up secluded woods. Scary.sh!t.
I may have watched a wee bit too much Law and Order and CSI, but I would never ever jog in a park, or anywhere that there is woods. EVER EVER EVER.
Dont need a show being made about me and my headless body, TYVM
I would definitely drive her. I don't think driving someone 5 blocks is some sort of hugely inconvenient over-behavior (not a real word, I know) and why risk it for such a teeny inconvenience?
I live a quiet suburban area of Houston. Our neighborhood is OK, but the adjacent neighborhood is the wealthiest, nicest subdivision in my part of town. Recently, they have had a rash of break-ins. A group of men (they think) are just walking around, trying unlocked doors, and walking in, or opening unlocked car doors and taking things. Then, two weeks ago, in the middle of the afternoon, some guy just *walked* into a house and raped the two teenage girls there at gunpoint. In the middle of the afternoon, right after school. I guess he knew parents aren't usually home. The girls did not know him; totally random.
We have all been on edge around here. It's a crazy world.
I so hear this! Mine and MH's lover lane days in said zodiac killer country were over once I saw the movie, "Urban Legend."
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I'm 17 and a mom, so I think i'd have some valuable input on the subject. My Dad was what I would call overprotective. He would drop me off wherever i went but usually i was home by midnight. My dad would have NEVER let me leave the house at 10pm unless it was at a public place like a quinceanera or some other FAMILY oriented party with people who HE knew and trusted... if he didn't know my friends he wouldn't let me. He eventually let me drive myself when i got my car and got a job. He believed that if i worked i deserved to have more freedom. Be careful to not smother your DD though, she will get tired of it and sneaking out could be an issue, that is what happened to me! It has nothing to do with me getting pregnant, but when i sneaked out of the house my parents weren't aware of what i was doing .....
Also another thing my dad did with me is he would have me call him when i arrived at my destination, even if i drove.
Absolutely not. I rarely go anywhere after dark by myself. I think it was the movie Murder By Numbers that put an end to that. There are too many weirdos out there.
If that makes me paranoid or over protective, then I'm cool with that.
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Yup, 100% this. It's unfortunate, but the things I see in the news these days..... I would also be driving her, without question.
I'm coming in way late here but...
When I was 17 I had my own car, so there was never an issue of walking alone at night. But at that age, I still had a 9:30 curfew (unless I was at work), so there was no way my Mom would have let me go. And I never got into trouble or gave her a reason not to trust me.
So no, I don't think you're being overprotective. lol
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