ugh.

4Speedy · March 2010

I got a text message this morning inviting DD to a birthday party for one of her friends. This girl used to be in DD's preschool class last year but the mom had some sort of falling out with the school and yanked her DD. My DD was heartbroken--this was her best friend. I did my best to arrange playdates and be accommodating to keep the friendship up. We would arrange to meet at the park and they would be no-shows. No call, no nothing. I got tired of my DD's hurt feelings so I stopped telling DD when I had invited them anywhere. If they showed up, DD was happily surprised. If they didn't show, DD never had to know. They no-showed about 75% of the time. Finally I just let it go and decided not to instigate play dates, etc.

So I got the text this morning. It's been maybe 10 months since we have had any contact but my DD still asks me to call her friend all the time to invite her over.

Am I a fool for opening this can of worms again? Should I ignore it or should we go and then expect tears when they blow my DD off again, once the party is over? And what's up with the day before text message? Has her mother allienated so many of this little girls friends that they are scrounging for party guests?

carladillon · March 2010

I say ignore it. First, I think texting a last minute invite is very tacky. If the mom doesn't have the courtesy to make contact with you when you arranged playdates or enough respect for you and your daughter.....red flags all over the place.

Puckchick07 · March 2010

Ignore it. I think a last minute text is her last minute effort to get more guests at the party.

I hope the little birthday girl does have friends to come to her party though. It sounds as though the mother is really making it difficult for lasting friendship..if she's doing this with others too. I don't think it's worth opening your daughter up to disappointment again.