My kid is really small

amyfelice · March 2010

I was talking to someone (jen at tulip grove) whose baby is 12 weeks old and she is almost the same size as Lele. I kind of felt awful. I know everyone is different, but the other baby looked so healthy and my baby looked so scrawny.

I am trying everything, I even give her a bottle and then pump just to see how much she will take, if she will be more satisfied but it doesn't help. she is just such a lousy eater. I don't even think it's the reflux because I stopped all meds and it doesn't seem any worse. Oy vey.

I'm just venting. I weighed her today, 12 lb 3 oz and that was going on three days with no poop (she pooped later). So now she is probably at least 3 oz lighter. or more. it was a big one.

SweetieP · March 2010

Try not to worry.

I know it's hard. And I'm sure I've asked before but have you started her on solids yet?

teambaumer · March 2010

Amy, you know the first rule, don't compare your child to another. I'm sure you pressure yourself because of your profession, I probably would too. She will probably gain more weight as you add solids to her diet.

I know I said not to compare, but some of our kiddos are petite. My Z is. She is 16 months and only weighs 20lbs. Her 7 month old cousin out weighs her. Point being, I'm sure you are doin an excellent job and as long as she is growing as she should E will be great. Before you know it she will be a wonderful eater.

Lexi & Orion's Mommy · March 2010

big hugs, Lexi was tiny too. Not as small as L, but still small. just take it one day at a time and enjoy your little princess. She will fatten up someday.

soon2Bkranz · March 2010

Oh hugs...I so understand I went through the same thing/feelings with JLK. I know for her it was the reflux that made her not want to eat. Like she connected eating with the pain of the reflux.

Can I ask why you stopped the meds??

Also we had to try quite a few before we found the right one. And that was all with the help of a GI. Onw thing he said that made a lot of sense was once they dont eat they stop getting the hungry feeling like normal people. Thats why children that are starving in other countries arent writhing around in pain/hunger they just dont feel it the way we assosiate with hunger panges.

Trust your mommy gut though...do you feel like something isnt right??

bunch · March 2010

Hugs Amy- she's your little princess!

amyfelice · March 2010

Ay, I don't know. Thanks everyone. I just don't know. I felt like I was giving her medication and I didn't know if it was necessary. I saw a GI doctor and she didn't really think that was the problem. I do have prevacid in the house. I could try it. i know several people said that helped. I hate when she makes that face and shudders when I give her somethign she doesn't like. I feel so terrible.

Let me just say that being a pediatrician and having a baby really sucks. everyone kind of thinks you should know what is wrong, even the doctors. I don't know what is wrong. She did start solids, like well over a month ago. I am going slow because it makes her constipated. If she doesn't poop for a day or two, I cut back and go back to liquids for a day to get things moving. Like today.

Anyway, mostly a vent. Maybe I will try the Prevacid.

teambaumer · March 2010

One thing our GI told us to do head on was to start giving her apple and pear juice before even giving her the meds. His reasoning was that because her poops were so backed up (they had been thick and she was constipated) it was pushing her stomach acids up her GI tract giving her the reflux. While the juice (mixed with water) helped loosen her stools the reflux was still bothering her. We were prescribed prevacid and a few others that we had to get compounded. What we ended up doing is putting it in her juice and she did great. The thing that finally helped her was eating solids. A month into solids her reflux resolved. One thing they also told us was that they wanted to start the meds asap because if she became acustom to the reflux, she would be turned off to eating as it would come up after meals. Now the only reason we see the GI is to monitor her for colitis because DH has Crohn's. Definetly go with your instincts.

jsugrin · March 2010

Just because she is tiny does not mean anything is wrong with her. Now if there are other things that are prickling up your antenae that's one thing but size alone, some people are just small. My friend has two girls, and the younger is just tiny. She was barely 20 pounds at two. Let me tell you, she is the sweetest, cutest little bug ever! Nothing wrong with her, she just got some random small family genetics.

StefandTodd · March 2010

((Hugs))

painter's_palate · March 2010

((HUGE HUGS)) It's so hard. Both of my girls are really small too. Aside from S's reflux problems there was no other explanation other than genes. They've run every test. I really hate the FTT label because other than size they really are thriving.

FWIW, Lele looks like one happy healthy baby

That's~Mrs.Stephanie · March 2010

I know you are worried, as a mother can. Your Lele is perfect and beautiful.

She'll start packing on more weight as she eats more solids - I think. She just started out on them recently right?

EmmieB · March 2010

oh, lots of hugs!

Have you tried a nutritionist? It's just a thought.

Feel better!

Celyn · March 2010

She's at or ahead of all her developmental milestones. She's obviously getting enough nutrition or she would be falling behind on those things, right?

If it's any consolation, Aaron is 24lbs and 26 months old. I know babies that weighed more than at at 10 months old. His doctor isn't concerned at all, since he's on the same path he's always been following.

amyfelice · March 2010

Thanks everyone. I know, it was just a shocker to see her next to someone that I felt like was just born, although that baby is almost three months.

Yes she eats solids, DH made her some delicious pear/apricot sauce that he mixed with canola oil while cooking it and she has been gobbling that up like you wouldn't believe.

I was expecting a big girl, I am so big (5'9") and DH is 5'11" and his brothers are well over 6' as is mine. Oh well. I guess she found some teeny tiny genes somewhere in the mix. I don't know of anyone in either of our families that is under 5'5".

SeasonalCook · March 2010

Look at your siggy pic! She's about as perfect as she can be!! Hugs Amy. Try not to worry so much. (I know, much easier said than done.)

jsugrin · March 2010

amyfelice:
Thanks everyone. I know, it was just a shocker to see her next to someone that I felt like was just born, although that baby is almost three months.
Yes she eats solids, DH made her some delicious pear/apricot sauce that he mixed with canola oil while cooking it and she has been gobbling that up like you wouldn't believe.
I was expecting a big girl, I am so big (5'9") and DH is 5'11" and his brothers are well over 6' as is mine. Oh well. I guess she found some teeny tiny genes somewhere in the mix. I don't know of anyone in either of our families that is under 5'5".

This was how I felt about Andrew for the longest time. He was only in the 10% for height, I'm 5'9" DH is 6' both our brothers are 6'4" my mom's SISTER is 6'4". It freaked me out that he was so small but eventually het got up to the 50% and then the 75%. Now of course Cooper has been 95%+ from the get go and that is what I expected out of one of our kids.

My friend with the little kiddo, she's 5'8" and DH is 5"11" but she has one sister (family of 6) that is really tiny and it looks like where ever that sister's tiny genes came from they got passed along to her daughter too.

we-love-to-try · March 2010

oh, big hugs. Jenna is about 22 lbs at 21 months old. I have a number of friends that have kidlets that weigh that at 10 months (if not sooner). She still wears a pair of 6-12 month pants (now capri's) and that's on the smallest waist setting.

She'll get there. Honest. And it's HARD but please don't spend this time concerned too much for her weight. She's happy, healthy and you're giving her what she needs. I know it's frusterating. My doc continues to tell me 'kids eat what they need to eat, and it's better to be on the smaller side than the bigger side' (I think he made that last part up to make me feel better, but whatever)

Big, huge hugs!

Mrs.K&C · March 2010

Aw, big hugs A. One of the bloggers I read has a daughter that is tiny (one of twins and the other twin is average size) and she has links to other bloggers with smaller babies that write about it a lot. Not as much the medical aspect as they've all been through the same tests and have pretty much no explanation, but just the feelings of always having to hear how small their kiddo is or personally comparing their size to other babies far younger than them...just the emotional part. I know when I was going through all my issues it was so helpful to read blogs from people in the same situation as me.

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