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UNPOPULAR OPINION THURSDAY
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Re: UNPOPULAR OPINION THURSDAY
i have a few today...
1. i think maxi pads are one of the most disgusting products ever.
2. i think a majority of the uprise against this healthcare reform has nothing to do with the actual piece of legislation as it does with being opposed to who is in office. politics has become akin to sports teams - people shouting "foul" when the refs don't call it and thinking their team is the cleanest playing, bestest team ever no matter what. i also feel like some people are on the sidelines cheering for someone when they don't even know the rules to the game.
3. the people around my neck of the woods dress like frumpy old head mistress and it drives me nuts. they age themselves 10 years. pick up a freaking magazine and style yourself, homie! even target and old navy have some decently stylish things!
In another discussion I was having, we talked about how bills should come out without knowing who is behind them. So often, a bill comes out, and it's automatically deemed a POS because someone with a (D) or an (R) behind their name is backing it. No real objectivity comes out of it, because if they aren't on your side, then you must not agree. A lot of people are just programmed robots regurgitating what their party says, and all the while, they may not even know what it means or back the message. :headdesk:
You posted the thread and you don't have one, weirdo!
i think that would be a phenomenal step towards bi-partisanship. i'm not sure how it would work out since we can all watch cspan glenn beck and jon stewart, but i think a lot of people would be surprised by what they decide if they were left to form their own opinion completely (myself included).
I will play (then I shall have to work)
I think the the new healthcare bill will be good for our county, except for the people who don't want to work & still expect everyone to foot their bill. I think that the most messed up piece of legislation out there is "No Child Left Behind". I work very closly with school cousenlors, who aren't able to do their job, because every other week they are having to do testing to meet the critieria of that law.
The Mouse ~ 06.12.08 | The Froggy ~ 02.23.11
Yeah I am not a big fan of No Child Left Behind. I don't think all the testing is helping to improve our schools. In some ways, I think it makes our schools worse.
Those people are already covered on Medicaid. This bill is the hope for coverage for people who would work if they could but they can't because they will lose their Medicaid coverage and possibly die. (Lady in my husband's diabetes support group.)
My UO...and I know it's a big old U because I posted it elsewhere...
When men talk loud and vociferously about abortion and abstinence, I want to hit them with a pan. I'm not saying a man can't have an opinion about abortion, but he doesn't get to be the loudest voice in the room. If you aren't ever going to have to face it, then don't make it all about what you think, and don't tell a woman how she should feel about it. And rich, famous people who talk about adoption over abortion should really rein it in unless they have been there. Mike Huckabee? STFU. John McCain? You've got an adoptive daughter, so I'll be happy to listen.
I think Chelsea Handler is painfully unfunny, and don't get the hype.
As a teacher and especially as a teacher of Special Needs - NCLB is legislation that ties teachers hands. The premise behind it may be well meaning, but it SUCKS and until people can come to grips with the fact that a poor kid that is suffering from PPD or MR is not capable of preforming to the same level as a typically developing child and that it OKAY that they are not - things aren't going to change.
While I agree that students should have a minimal competency to graduate high school, I think there should be obvious exceptions. At the same time that government is trying to make education "one size fits all" it is also trying to individualize everything and make everything diversified. Guess who gets to do all of this work - that's right, already over worked teachers. Please don't say anything to me about having summers "off". First of all, I don't, I work year round and second those that do, rarely are "off" - they are either planning, taking a class, or doing a workshop to keep their license current. Also please fund the schools, but more importantly, earmark where those school funds should go so they don't end up in the the already deep pockets of the administrators.
That being said - I see the same thing happening with the health care bill - it may have good intentions, but I only see it turning into a clusterf*ck.
sorry this turned into way more than I thought when I started typing
I completely agree.
Fine, I'll play. Try to keep that MAJOR flames to a minimum. Thanks.
I have a negative opinion of people who have their kids close together on purpose. I've just never heard a reason that didn't sound selfish to me. "I want to get diapers over and done with"..."I want to get them out of the house in college at the same time"..."Easier for sports/activities." Really? You don't want to focus on them individually for a while? I don't necessarily judge this. It's your life, you build your family however you want to. But I think it's selfish to pop out one right after the other to just be done with it all.
I didn't get to do it, but I wanted to do it because I am old and rickety and wanted to have infants when I was at my least rickety point.
Is that selfish?
or how about I wanted them to experience having siblings from early on and that they can grow up together? My youngest sibling is 15 years younger than me. I moved across country to go to college and never went back - I barely know her. Judge away, I don't care. My boys are happy and I'm happy.
ETA: and you will never get to "focus on them individually" beyond your first, so there's that
How is that selfish? We all take our own needs into consideration when planning to have children or not to have children. I feel like by your logic, you could argue that using BC because you don't want kids yet is selfish. What about that poor egg that wants to be fertilized?
And you're implying that having two kids close together means you aren't as good a parent or you can't meet their individual needs.
I have some "selfish" reasons for a lot of things. I want to have another kid soon so I can get the baby years over with and go back to school. I want to have a VBAC so I don't have to get cut again. OMG.
I feel like there is this notion that a parent should never take their own needs and desires into account because it's unfair to their children. Frankly, that is beyond ridiculous.
i sort of, kind of agree with you a teeny bit. i don't think every mother that does this is selfish, but from my experience growing up with 2 older sisters - 2.5 and 4 years older than me and my younger sister (20 months younger) i have to say my relationship with my two older sisters was better. my younger sister and i were too close, we fought too much during late elem./jr. high school, there was some early jealousy issues. part could be parenting, part could be personality, but that experience made me want my kids approx 3 years apart.
i think focusing on an infant for the first year - one on one - is very important and when dd is 3 she'll be in pre school and i'll be at home with number 2. they will still be close enough to play together and know each other, but not so close they feel like they are forced to share everything - friends, sports, etc.
but like i said there are probably a multitude of factors, but my experience was NOT positive.
lol. my sister and I are three years apart - we fought constantly and is one of my (selfish) reasons to have kids at any distance besides three years.
this stuff always boils down to personal experience
I'm just kind of "meh" on Japanese cars. I know they're typically dependable and long lasting, but I just prefer European models.
This came to mind this morning as I noticed my odometer roll over to 70k. Normally by 70k miles, my cars were raggedy rattletraps and I was getting the "new car itch," but with this one, it still drives and looks like the day I bought it. I heart my car.
word! i had a toyota in college and it was dependable and all, but blech. i FLOVE my beautifully german engineered VW
it makes me warm and fuzzy.
Agreed.
OMG, we used a Toyota as our delivery car at our restaurant. That thing would run for two days off the fumes from a drunk's breath.
I realize this is unpopular. I get that! I'm not saying that doing it makes you a bad parent. There are so many worse things than this. It's for the reasons I mentioned and when I hear people say those kinds of things they sound like they are self-righteously building their "perfect" life. Iris, the birth control argument is silly. I certainly hope BC is used in protection of the children you don't have because you can't support them! I could argue that it's FOR the kids. But you say you want to get the baby years over with and I think it makes you sound like they are a burden. I know you don't feel that way. My e-pinion of you (from what I gather online) is that you're a very, very loving and good mom so like I said, it's not a judgement. Just an UO.
How about I want them close enough together to have some type of similar interest and be able to play together (not that mine are going to be to close together, even though I wish I was about to pop out another one). That isn't selfish. And, if I did have a selfish reason, who cares? They are MY kids, I am allowed to be selfish.
Ohhhhhkay. So, is it selfish if you HAVE to have your kids close together, assuming you want more than one, because you're too old to wait three or four years between kids? Or in that case ought I to have had an only child so that I could focus solely on him? Oh, wait, but that would be depriving him of a sibling, and maybe THAT would be selfish. So maybe I just shouldn't have had kids at all, based on this logic?
I hate the way she dresses. There is always something about her look that looks off. But I do find her "sort of" funny.
Yes, it was a silly argument. That was kind of my point. Why shouldn't people try to build the perfect life? No one will get the perfect life of course, but you can think about your ideal and try to come as close to it as possible.
Yes, I want to get the baby years over with but that doesn't mean I think of my daughter as a burden. It means I want to go back to school and build a career and I think that will be easier if my kids are older and a little more independent.
my UO apparently is that i LOVE Chelsea Handler! lol.. I find her hysterical.
and i really hope to get tickets to her show coming up for mother's day!
Lori is right. I recently met someone who was homeless after getting into drugs. She was able to get free health care. I was in shock because there are so many hard working americans who make too much for state insurance and too little for private insurance. Our current system really screws the hardworking people who are in lower income jobs.
W (02/2009), N (08/2012), and C (04/2014)
Says the young one who has tons of time to have her kids. I'm 39 next month. I don't have any choice *but have my kids close together.