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ali-1411
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talk me through this (again)
ali-1411
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Remember this post?
I never said anything. It never came up, I haven't seen either of them much lately. I decided it wasn't my business.
Wife B was just here. Apparently, her husband said he only stayed at the party because a friend of ours was hitting on and molesting Wife A. And Husband B just stayed to watch out for her.
And there's more. Apparently Wife A likes to go out clubbing by herself, and Husband A tags along just to keep an eye on her.
Oh God. I wanted to tell Wife B so bad. My hands were shaking and there was a knot in my stomach. I couldn't do it, though. I did stick up for my friend. I said that Wife A was having a good time, and any touching going on was happening on both sides. I said that I didn't want to be telling tales, but my friend wasn't doing anything without her consent. I wanted to scream, Are you f*cking stupid! My friend didn't touch her! It was YOUR HUSBAND!
There's more, there's so much more to this story. It would paragraphs to explain it all.
I know many of you will say to just cut ties with all of them. But Jakob plays with their kids. We use their daughter to babysit.
Oh God. Am I a terrible awful person for not telling Wife B the whole truth? Worst part....the entire time B was here, he husband kept calling and texting to find out when she was going home. So, of course, I think he was afraid that I was going to tell on him. Wouldn't you assume that?
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Re: talk me through this (again)
Crazy I don't think you should ever tell. They always shoot the middle man and it sucks to know when all you wanna do is tell.
Could you send an anonyms letter to the wife?
I love it!
And I know this is totally not helpful but I would love to hear the whole story. Maybe you can write up a paragraph a day and post it at noon. It can be our nestopera. We can all speculate on the next days episode. lol
LOL I keep updating another friend on the drama. She hasn't watched General Hospital in weeks because this is better
A couple of questions:
1) If you were wife B, would you want to be told?
2) Do you consider wife B to be your friend? If so, then you have to tell!
1) I would want to be told. Honestly, after everything she told me today I can't believe she hasn't figured it out for herself.
2) Yes, kinda. I kind of consider Wife A to be a friend, also. But if I had to pick then I am closer to Wife B.
I am usually a fan of not sticking my nose where it doesn't belong and I definitely ALWAYS avoid drama. But, in this situation I would say that I would tell wife B, especially since it happened in your home and it's more than just hearse. You made a good point, that you can't believe she hasn't figured it out yet. Sometimes things that are right under our nose and we should we see but deny because it's too painful. She might suspect but have no evidence or she might let her subconscious keep her oblivous out of survival. Dunno, just my 2 cents
I hate drama like that and being dragged into other people's problems. I think I'd just call Wife A and say:
"look, I'm uncomfortable with what happened in my home with you and husband b and it's obvious that wife b doesn't know. This is y'all's drama and problems but you've involved me by bringing it here so this is just a warning to you that I'm going to tell her what I saw because I think it's only fair. I don't think you should put me in this position though so it'd probably be better coming from you or husband b yourselves but just know that it will come out."
Ditto this. I was in a similar situation also and wish someone would have told me. Just so you are not the middle man an anonymous letter would be a good idea.
And you say you're surprised she doesn't already know, she really may not know. I know looking back I should have recognized it, but since I loved my husband and "he loved me" I never would have imagined he could do that to me.
I think you should tell her. My mom was in that position and I think she really wishes someone would have told her.