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giving resignation to work and ?

lys84lys84
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i am going to give notice at my job today that i will not be returning. is it approriate to ask my supervisor to use him as a referance in the future?
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  • lindsaylllindsayll

    If you had previously indicated you'd be returning and are now leaving him in the lurch, I wouldn't expect him to sing your praises.

    Also, it's "reference".

    When do you plan to look for a new job?

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  • AbsoluteLMAbsoluteLM member

    I just gave my resignation last week and my boss voluntarily said he would be a reference for me, but I might have a different situation than you.

    I asked for, and was denied, flex hours before going on maternity leave even though others in my company were granted flex time (we don't have a company-wide flex time policy). So, when I called to resign, I asked about getting flex time again, was denied, and then resigned... but all the while saying how sad I was to do so, but that it was necessary due to daycare costs, etc. Maybe you could use a similar tactic? If you act like you are really sorry about resigning, your boss will be more apt to be a reference for you in the future.

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    imageAbsoluteLM:

    I just gave my resignation last week and my boss voluntarily said he would be a reference for me, but I might have a different situation than you.

    I asked for, and was denied, flex hours before going on maternity leave even though others in my company were granted flex time (we don't have a company-wide flex time policy). So, when I called to resign, I asked about getting flex time again, was denied, and then resigned... but all the while saying how sad I was to do so, but that it was necessary due to daycare costs, etc. Maybe you could use a similar tactic? If you act like you are really sorry about resigning, your boss will be more apt to be a reference for you in the future.

    GL!

     

    thanks! i have actually asked them for part time as well and was denied. i  would not be acting sorry either. i truly feel badly; however why go back to work when my whole pay check would go towards childcare?

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    imagelys84:

    thanks! i have actually asked them for part time as well and was denied. i  would not be acting sorry either. i truly feel badly; however why go back to work when my whole pay check would go towards childcare?

    did you discuss options like part time before you went on leave?  surely you knew the math on the paycheck < daycare thing before you went on leave, and hopefully prior to getting pregnant.

    i'm sorry, i just get irritated when women jerk around their employers when it comes to returning from leave.  it makes it harder for those of us who need/want to go back FT, be taken seriously & be considered for raises & promotions, etc.

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    imagelys84:

    thanks! i have actually asked them for part time as well and was denied. i  would not be acting sorry either. i truly feel badly; however why go back to work when my whole pay check would go towards childcare?

    did you discuss options like part time before you went on leave?  surely you knew the math on the paycheck < daycare thing before you went on leave, and hopefully prior to getting pregnant.

    i'm sorry, i just get irritated when women jerk around their employers when it comes to returning from leave.  it makes it harder for those of us who need/want to go back FT, be taken seriously & be considered for raises & promotions, etc.

    i understand your point. However, i wanted to make sure that this is really what i wanted to do before i gave my notice and yes we crunched numbers but wanted to see how it worked in real life. plus my husband recently got a new job and wanted to see how he felt about before we commit to him being the sole provider. 

     

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  • fellesferiefellesferie member

    Most employers are pretty understanding when a woman decides to stay home. I think that if you previously had a good relationship with your boss and that you went on leave on good terms, you should ask.

    It looks like I'm also not returning, and will resign in a week or so. My husband's contract position is going full-time, so we'll have benefits through his work. Had that happened before I went on leave, I would have just quit. The timing just didn't work out that way, though.

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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member
    I don't think it would be a good idea to say "I'm not returning, and BTW, can you give me a reference?" I don't think that would go over well.
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