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So..give me your opinion...

Mrs.HooperMrs.Hooper member
in Babies: 9 - 12 Months

I just got a Bday invite from my SIL... Her DS is 3wks older than Colby.  On his invite she wrote....Please bring a dish for the Potluck dinner?!?   Ummmm.   Who asks people to bring food to a bday party??  I just think its weird ...........and tacky

 

Plus..I asked and she is not providing a main dish to go with the potluck..everyone is bringing a maindish or side dish!!!

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  • Tomkat8403Tomkat8403 member
    Yeah that's kind of strange. I wouldn't feel right asking people to do that at all.
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  • AutumnBride929AutumnBride929
    IDK... that's what a potluck is so it seems normal to me.  But I've never been to a birthday potluck, hah.
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  • k_stillionk_stillion member
    I totally agree........
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  • lwilkinsonlwilkinson
    LOL, tacky. Yes.
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  • KoCoLoCoKoCoLoCo
    I agree...DHs family does all their parties like this "please bring xxxxx."  It drives me crazy.  I am from a different school...like if you host a party, you should actually host it.
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  • ksaylesksayles member
    I have never heard of that for a b-day party, but I wouldn't be opposed to it.
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  • easyBreezieeasyBreezie
    I can understand a family get together type of party, but on invitations for everyone, no, that is tacky!
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  • Anne0784Anne0784 member

    I'm with you, it's weird and tacky.

    Now, when we have baby showers for people at work (I work with 80+ women), we have pot lucks....totally different than a first birthday though!

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  • ivs112ivs112 member
    It is a weird request for a birthday party.
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  • fairychick77fairychick77 member
    For a first b-day I think it's a little weird...
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  • Temp534591562502098Temp534591562502098
    its tacky to do potluck if you aren't doing a main dish and are expecting presents as well.
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  • C.MoC.Mo member
    It's very tacky. You don't throw a party for your kid and expect presents, and then ask people to bring food on top of that. Blech. There isn't an eyeroll big enough.
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  • CalinsBrideCalinsBride

    All of our family GTGs are potluck, so thats the norm for me. Our family is huge and none of us has the means to feed 60+ people. Plus its tradition.

     

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  • CalinsBrideCalinsBride

    imagefairychick77:
    For a first b-day I think it's a little weird...

    But this.

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  • nemtownnemtown

    IMO I think it's tacky, but I guess maybe....

    I think you should only have a party if you can afford to do so. If you can't afford to host a party, don't.

    That being said, if I couldn't afford to have a first birthday party for LO, I'd still want him to have some kind of party so I might resort to pot luck. Actually, I would keep the party small and serve something like hamburgers and hot dogs on the grill to keep it cheap.

    I think it's super tacky to ask everyone to bring all of the food to ANY party and provide nothing yourself, which is why I refuse to go to a certain family member's Halloween parties.... We have to brin gour own drinks AND our own food AND dress up according to the theme they select.

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  • Tomkat8403Tomkat8403 member
    imageCalinsBride:

    All of our family GTGs are potluck, so thats the norm for me. Our family is huge and none of us has the means to feed 60+ people. Plus its tradition.

     

    If it's family it's one thing. Mine would help without asking.

    But if you're inviting other people, and putting it on the invitation, I think that's tacky for some reason.

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  • LauranBillyLauranBilly member
    The way i look at it is, your asking people to buy, make, and bring food to a Birthday party.... then also you know you have to bring a gift... thats just asking a lot from people. totally Tacky.

     

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    LOL, tacky. Yes.

    Yes

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  • tegltegl

    What to bring to a party on an invite is never cool.  That said, we had DS' baptism recently, and all my Aunt's, SIL, mom and MIL brought food (salad and apps).  We provided the mains, deserts and drinks.  I didn't ask them to bring anything;  they offered and I accepted.

    Typically our family get togethers are about 20 people, so everyone pitches in.  My mom always wants to bring stuff, and I sometimes say no, but it's usually harder to fight her on it.

    For us, bringing food is not a money thing, its a time/convenience thing.   I won't ask someone to bring anything unless they offer first.

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  • married4lovemarried4love
    I never expect people to bring anything, and I don't really want them too either. But if someone asks to bring something I'll let them most of the time. I really would just rather do it myself. And I'd never do it for a birthday party. If you don't want to make the food, just have a cake party. 
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  • MommyandKateMommyandKate

    imageksayles:
    I have never heard of that for a b-day party, but I wouldn't be opposed to it.

    Same.

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  • BitterOldHagBitterOldHag

    imageKoCoLoCo:
    I agree...DHs family does all their parties like this "please bring xxxxx."  It drives me crazy.  I am from a different school...like if you host a party, you should actually host it.

    Same here. I will always offer to bring something but I tend to get assigned something before I can.

    It's "you're invited on XYZ, please bring this or that."

    Me no likey.

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