DH thinks I wasn't really pg :/

BigHairQueen · March 2010

DH and I were talking last night. I was telling him that I am having a hard time lately and that I am going to talk to a therapist. He said I could always talk to him. Well, I do try and talk to him but he just doesn't understand and I told him that he brushes it off like I wasn't really pregnant. His response was, "well, you weren't. Your dr. even said so." WHAT?!? I lost it. Did we hear two different things? I tried to explain to him what she really said but that didn't go too well. It might not have been in my uterus and it may not have been a viable pregnancy but come on. Now I really need a therapist and DH needs a throat punch! What an idiot...

DrVWife · March 2010

Sometimes they just don't get it. Lots of hugs to you.

kimarino13 · March 2010

Just commiserating because MH said the same thing through all of my chemical pregnancies and it hurt like hell. It just wasn't what Ineeded to hear after all of that, you know? Sorry.

cookie_queen · March 2010

DrVWife:
Sometimes they just don't get it. Lots of hugs to you.

this. men are idiots sometimes. If you feel you need to talk to someone that is totally your call not his. Do what you need to for you!

wishingforpositive21 · March 2010

Guys just don't comprehend the way we do! Throat punching is not necessary lol (although it would probably make you feel wonderful) but I think you guys really need to talk about this. Even if you have to agree to disagree you don't want any resentment! DH and I had a m/c about 2 years ago and didn't even know we were pregnant, it still upset me but he blew it off like it was nothing. I had to come to terms with the fact that he just didn't see it the way I did! I hope you can put DH in his place, minus the throat punch, and that both of you can move forward from this! Hugs!

MrsP71506 · March 2010

I am so sorry

hopefulmommy · March 2010

Ditto to all of the above! I've been there w my dh too! It's really hurtful! They care but no way can they feel things the way we do. I'm sorry you're feeli g bad

. (((( hugs))))

LuvWIfootball · March 2010

DrVWife:
Sometimes they just don't get it. Lots of hugs to you.

I completely agree with this. When it isn't happening to them, they just don't understand how it is and they aren't able to get emotionally involved. It's tough for you, but know that we're all here and we understand what you're feeling.

Ginger71 · March 2010

I know you're hurting and your Dh's comments don't help. My DH says the same thing about the chemicals I have had and I get so upset. We have had some fights about it but he can't see my point and I can't see how he cant.

Just big hugs and I am so sorry for your loss.

etoyama · March 2010

I'm so sorry. I think as much as they try and want to understand, men will never, ever really know what it's like to have all of this taking place in your body. I mean, I feel like I've suffered a loss every time my period arrives, so I can't imagine how it would feel to have a chemical pg or m/c. I think talking to a therapist sounds like a very good idea.