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mopsie
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Would you ask for a new L&D nurse if you didn't like yours?
mopsie
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Someone was telling me the other day that if I'm "assigned" a nurse who I don't like, I should ask for a new one. I don't know how that works in the hospital, but I'd feel like a total b*tch if I requested a new nurse. How bad would it have to be for you to request a switch?
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Re: Would you ask for a new L&D nurse if you didn't like yours?
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My comment is coming from a nurse's perspective regarding this question. I personally would not really worry about this. Most labor and delivery nurses are very kind and excited to help you through your birthing experience. Of course you will always get those few that aren't or you may have a personalty conflict and in those cases don't feel bad for asking for another nurse to provide your care. Child birth is a special experience and you don't want it ruined by not getting along with your nurse. It is usually best for both you and the nurse so don't feel like you are being mean.
I am a charge nurse on my unit and I can say it is a rare occasion that our nurses don't get along well with our patients. I can say when it does happen I have no problem giving the patient a new nurse.
If you aren't comfortable or don't like the nurse you could request a different one but I guess it depends on what they have for staff at the time.
Hopefully this wont be the case for you and you have a wonderful nurse.
This. It's my first time going through this, but based on what I've heard from all my friends who have kids, most L&D nurses are fantastic and will pretty much bend over backwards to help make you comfortable and happy. If they weren't patient and likeable they would probably be working on a different unit that wouldn't require so much patient interaction. I think you'll be just fine and in good hands.
I personally have no problem asking for a different nurse if I get one I don't jive with. My SIL is nurse (and just had her baby) and this was one of the things she recommended to me to do if I don't feel comfortable with my assigned nurse. She said it happens all the time, and as long as you are polite about the request, no one will think too much about it. Labor is uncomfortable enough as it is, and there's no point in making the process more stressful than what it needs to be.
There is a nurse at our hospital that I will refuse if she is assigned to me this time. I'm usually extra careful not to be rude, but this is one time I'm willing to make an exception. She was a mega b*tch when I was in labor with DS2 and kept telling me she just new I was going to have a c-section. Turns out, If she'd ordered my epi when the OB told her to instead of 3 hours later and the put in the catheter after the epi so DS2 could drop past my bladder I would have delivered hours earlier than I did. She kept saying that even though my OB said it was time for the epi SHE (the nurse) wanted me to progress further than the 4cm I was at before she ordered it. I will give nurses all the credit in the world for the job that they do, but this particular nurse was in the wrong for going against what my doctor ordered.
It is your healthcare, so if you're not comfortable with a certain nurse you shouldn't feel bad asking for someone else.
Same here. The nurses aren't there to be our friends. They are thier to do a job so as long as she is doing it well I wouldn't ask for another nurse.
I would request a different nurse in a heartbeat. I had the rudest, most obnoxious byatch when I was in labor with my first. She gave me nothing but attitude, then walked out during shift change when I was supposed to be pushing.
I didn't have to say a word to anyone. When my OB came in and found out she had left me alone for over half an hour, he went right back out the door to the charge nurse. It's the only time in 20 years I've ever seen him angry.
I would and have. I was able to get another nurse to talk to the charge nurse privately to get her switched. It was mostly a personality thing, but the woman inspired no confidence in me whatsoever. Coming from a stillbirth, I needed someone who at least acted competent and didn't continuously tell me how many things she was messing up.
All of the other nurses were really great and it was not a big deal to get her switched.
This.
I'm not the type of person who wants someone around to coddle me. I just want the nurse to do their job. DH will be there for my emotional support. Thats his "job." So, as long as they do their job (the medical part) and aren't treating me horribly, then I doubt I'll have a problem.