Next baby? Excuse me?

gunsofbrixton · March 2010

So DH doesnt want anymore kids...I do want at least one more...when we got married it was discussed about have 1 or 2 kids...after having DS I realize that nothing compares to being a mother and i really would love to have at least one more...does anyone else's DH disagree on the number of kids that you want to have?

OregonPachey · March 2010

Yes, but we are opposite. He would maybe like one more and I don't want any more.

Luv-a-Bug · March 2010

We're both thinking 2

Jule_Z · March 2010

I was in labor for 38 hours with DD. At least until labor amnesia sets in - and everyone promises it will - we are done with one.

Ciconrad · March 2010

Sort of. We both ideally want three. I definitely want a girl at some point (have two boys now). If #3 is a girl, we will both be 100% happy being done. If #3 is a boy, DH still wants to be done. I want to adopt a little girl...so we would have 4 kids. He said if I really want to have a girl no matter what, we should just adopt #3 and be done but I would really like to experience one more pregnancy. We both agree we can't make any decisions for at least a year...once we understand what parenting two kids is really like.

lvmomjbj · March 2010

I have two boys from a previous marriage and DD was DH's first biological child. Ideally, he wants to try for a boy but i'm still kinda indecisive about it. I miss being pregnant so I would enjoy one more but I also re-enrolled in school and dont want to put that off anylonger.We have too many "plans" that dont include starting over yet again with another infant. So we'll see.

Shell24 · March 2010

Kind of...all of a sudden my DH is unsure about having a 3rd, which breaks my heart. I don't want this to be my last newborn/baby experience. I'm sure he'll come around though. He wants 3 too, and if money were no concern we would have 4. But right now we're cramped in our 2 bedroom/1 bath condo and dealing with showings, and being on the 3rd floor, etc. so I can see where he can't see ahead to when we'll have a house and be in the burbs and stuff.

I hope he comes around

diana.filipi · March 2010

I'd be okay with 2 but DH wants 3

kellialayne · March 2010

We constantly go back b/t wanting 2-3. I'm leaning more towards 3 but we'll see how things go w/ our first before we make any decisions.

FemmeNat01 · March 2010

We both agreed that 2 is fine. Even if we didnt, after all of this, I wouldn't have any more children.

mlf625 · March 2010

I want one more, DH isn't sure he wants another. Neither of us is dead set on our stance, though, so we'll see how we're feeling about things in a few years and go from there.

madameprimm · March 2010

I think maybe in 2-3 years I'll be over my traumatic labor experience and want to have another baby. DH was pretty traumatized by what happened to me so he doesn't want to put me through all that again. He's even gone so far as to express the want for a vasectomy just so I don't get pregnant again. The thought is definitely sweet, but I don't want to cancel out the possibility of having another baby altogether. It's just too soon to even think about it.

jenny1980 · March 2010

We both want 2-3 but neither of us has strong feelings at this point about what number feels right, so there's certainly the possibility for future disagreement. I feel like we'll need to have 2 kids and see how we do before making the decision about having a 3rd.

rocksteady91@hotmail.com · March 2010

before DD i always thought i would want 2 but since having such a hellish induction and sleep deprivation during the first month,idk if i can ever do it again.

jrlandrigan · March 2010

I def. would like one, maybe even 2 more but DH only wants one total.. I hope he changes his mind in a few years Sad

sunflowergrl · March 2010

I would like 3, and DH is okay with that as long as the next one is a boy. He's terrified of living with three DD's and me lol. Too much estrogen for him I suppose. But we're going to TTC again in Oct. so #1 and #2 will be close, but then we'll probably wait a bit longer btwn #2 and #3.

craziheazo · March 2010

mlf625:
I want one more, DH isn't sure he wants another. Neither of us is dead set on our stance, though, so we'll see how we're feeling about things in a few years and go from there.

This!

aocain02@yahoo.com · March 2010

We always agreed on 2, but after having DS I say I want 3. If we have a girl next time I'm sure we'll be done. If we have another boy I will probably try to convince DH to have 3 but he is dead set on 2 right now.

Brytany09 · March 2010

I am an oddball.. I want 4 (or possibly even five) and DH wants 3. I came from a family of 4 kids and loved having lots of siblings. I don't think I would go past five though.

childof007 · March 2010

rocksteady91@hotmail.com:
before DD i always thought i would want 2 but since having such a hellish induction and sleep deprivation during the first month,idk if i can ever do it again.

This minus the hellish induction experience.

Lurksgirl · March 2010

DH and I completely agree on the number of children we'd like ... as many as we're blessed with, whether it's one or 10.

Temp36641187503164 · March 2010

We both decided we wanted 3 a while back. We ended up with IF issues and it took 4+ years to get pregnant with Robert (and a few m/c). Then I had a super difficult pregnancy and developed pre-e at 24 weeks. I was able to carry him to 35 weeks and then he spent 12 days in the NICU. He also has bilatteral hydronephrosis (fluid on the kidneys) and will most likely need surgery this year.

I think I'm done.

DH still wants 3.

I want more children, but we have to go through IF treatment again then I will most likely go on bedrest between 20-25 weeks. Then I could end up with another preemie. How in the world could I take care of DS while on bedrest? Knowing everything that could happen I feel like it wouldn't be fair to him. We would have to wait 5 years so he would at least be in school durring the day.

Adoption is an option. DH thinks I will change my mind "in a few months" but I don't think so. I've always wanted a lot of children (I wanted more than 3 at first) so this way of thinking is very new to me.

sarahmae8 · March 2010

Well we def want at least one more but not any time soon and we both agree on that. Good luck!

mrssamuels2b · March 2010

We agreed on 2 but I'm having a horrible recovery...we haven't revisited it since.

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