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4 months today..

betizzle73betizzle73
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I've only been up for an hour and a half, and I can just feel today being a hard one. Olivia would have been FOUR months today - it feels absolutely unreal that she passed away that long ago, because I can still remember every detail of that day so clearly. Last night, I was driving with my dad to pick up dinner, and we were talking about how we can't believe how long it's been. Then, he started talking about all the things she would be doing at this point - smiling, laughing, etc. Don't get me wrong, he is the most supportive dad I could have asked for... he's just totally clueless sometimes. I didn't say anything because I knew he was just trying to be nice and I didn't want to hurt his feelings. Later, when I went home, I ended up laying in bed awake thinkning about it, and woke up thinking about it this morning. I think I need some lessons in assertiveness - I'm always so worried about making everyone else feel awkward about it so I don't say anything, and then I end up letting it ruin my day/weekend.

 Aaanyway... I guess I'm just venting, but I hope everyone else is having a good saturday :)

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  • twinkletoes815twinkletoes815
    Completely understand about not wanting to 'step on anyone's toes.'  Thinking about your precious girl on her milestone day. <hugs>
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  • mdm2137mdm2137
    ((hugs))

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  • butterfly843butterfly843
    Sending hugs, you have been in my thoughts since I know our losses were about a week apart and I just past my 4 month mark.

    Jenn

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  • betizzle73betizzle73
    Hey, thank you so much, that is so sweet. How are you doing with everything
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  • butterfly843butterfly843
    I have been ok, its a little rough with my edd coming up.

    Jenn

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    IVF#1 BFN IVF#2 BFP, loss at 19 weeks FET#1 BFN IVF#3 BFP, m/c FET#2 BFN

    Missing our twins Zachary and Madison, lost at 19 weeks on 11/13/09, edd 4/9/10

    BFP 7/17/10, m/c 7/25/10, edd 3/25/11

    Ectopic, lost left tube 4/20/11, edd 12/6/11

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  • spincat9spincat9 member

    I'm so sorry it was a tough day for you - I can't imagine what those milestones are like for you.  Indeed even super-supportive parents can be a little clueless.  My guess is they feel close enough and comfortable enough to share their innermost thoughts w/you and feel safe enough doing that with you that they aren't thinking about how their words are being received by you. 

     If you find an assertiveness class, let me know - I could have used it last weekend w/my FIL...grrrr.

    Hope you are doing better.

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  • hking76hking76 member
    [[hugs]]  I'm sorry, I'm sure your Dad meant well, but ouch.  The should've beens are just heart-wrenching.  You should find a way to stand up for yourself, in a way your comfortable, because its not fair that you sacrificed your peace and day...  You are a strong, amazing woman...  [[hugs]]
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