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TTC After a Loss 6 Months+
lax15bsu
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You know what?
lax15bsu
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I deleted my response to Cissi's post. Why? Because I let my feelings get hurt a bit, thinking she's talking about my seeing my baby's hb this morning. Yeah, I was happy about the hb. But I was pointing out to Cissi that I TOO have had 3 great u/s before. I saw my baby boy's hb three times too, and lost him horribly two days after the last. So I in no way think I'm in the clear, or so excited that I forget what has happened to me before. I live every day fearing another miscarriage. Every girl who's gotten a BFP after a loss does.
She did hurt my feelings, and I said as much. Then I deleted, because I don't belong on this board anyway. All my friends have now turned on me, simply because I'm pregnant. After how you treated Clali yesterday, I wasn't even going to post here, ever. I let my feelings get hurt, expressed that hurt, and got bashed for it. Whatever. I don't belong on this board. I sure as hell won't be coming back.
Cissi - I can't respond to your PM. I only have internet on my BB, and quick reply doesn't work on it. With the regular reply still not fixed, I can't reply.
You guys be bitter and jealous all you want. Eventually you're gonna alienate everyone who thought they were your friend anyway. You've already lost several. Just because you feel free to be bitter here and vent, doesn't mean others won't see it. It is a public forum.
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Re: You know what?
Good lord.. I picked quite a day to be MIA from the boards.
I have no idea whats going on with any of this drama
I'm sorry that you were hurt.
The thing is, I don't think there's anything wrong with expressing that your feelings were hurt OR for Cissi's OP. . . the thing about it is if you're going to be here while you're pregnant, you have to be prepared to see some pretty bitter stuff. If that bothers you, it might be best to stay on TTCAL not TTCAL+6, kwim?
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How have any of us turned on you? We're all happy you're pregnant. We all pray you (and everyone on PgAL) gets to keep their babies. Our bitterness didn't turn into puppies and rainbows just because our friends got pregnant. I agree, if this stuff hurts anyone's feelings, they should stay off the board. This IS TTCAL, after all.
I don't go over to PgAL and complain about stuff. Do you know why? Because I'm not PgAL. I don't see how people who don't belong to the board can complain about it. You belonged here up until _____weeks ago. Guess what? Many girls here belonged to PgAL until _____weeks ago, but you don't see them crying about tickers, updates, etc on PgAL because it hurts their feelings. Because it's not their board anymore. And IMO the whole "you've lost a lot of friends" is the same as "I feel sorry for your husbands."
::Golf claps::
Also, it pisses me off that other people are invading this board, and daring to call us bitter and jealous. I am not jealous of your pregnancy, I am grieving the FOUR that I have lost in the past 11 months. During that process, I believe I should be allowed to work through my feelings with my friends, who are CURRENTLY going through the same thing.
I understand very well that being pg after a loss has some horribly real fears, having also done that three times. However, there is a board that exists for discussing those fears...and this ain't it.
Of course we are all still friends, and we wish only the best for your pregnancies. It makes me sad that we can't vent without that meaning to you that we have "turned" on you.
(I know I am late, and everyone is probably ready for this to go away, but I feel like the boundaries need to be drawn for this new board. If your feelings get hurt, remember, you are lurking on our territory. Similiar to how I was annoyed w/ the random vent on PgAL yesterday that someone was glad she had left TTCAL when she did b/c we were all terrible bitter b!tches. Hurtful? Yes...but I didn't rant about it b/c it was posted on her board, not ours.)