Infertility, Life & Loss Blog
Love & luck to my 3TC girls. Congrats to Omega-The boys are here!
If there's one thing I've learned while waiting my turn,
it's that in each life some rain falls but you also get some sun.
After 2 years & 2 losses, our little man arrived 8-2011.
This was my first thought, but if I'm really being honest, I'd love to have a girl, and DH wants a boy. Obviously, we'll be happy either way, though!
I think this question will be more relevant when we already have a LO, because DH and I would both like to have at least one of each gender.
This. Maybe a better way to phrase it would be, what did you want when you first started TTC and didn't imagine it would be the journey is is turning into/has turned into?
I've always said that I wanted a boy first, but now, I want a girl. And there hasn't been a baby girl born into my family or DH's family in almost 10 years, so a girl would be nice!
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This was my first thought, but if I'm really being honest, I'd love to have a girl, and DH wants a boy. Obviously, we'll be happy either way, though!
I think this question will be more relevant when we already have a LO, because DH and I would both like to have at least one of each gender.
This. Maybe a better way to phrase it would be, what did you want when you first started TTC and didn't imagine it would be the journey is is turning into/has turned into?
Good point. Sorry
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I would be thrilled with either, but I said girl just because I am always picking out girl names or being drawn to girl clothes and girly decorations. I wouldn't have said that I would rather have a girl.. but thinking about what I am drawn to.. I guess that is enough to count
I too am just hoping for a healthy baby. However, I voted girl, not because that is what I want, but I feel that is a higher probability (I know, it's just how it happens, but hear me out) for me. I was a first born, SIL was born before DH, SIL had a girl first. So within my imediate family, it's always girl first, boy second. That said, I just want one of each someday.
I hope that if we have a girl she doesnt inherit my reproductive issues- but if we do and she does, well cross that bridge when we get there.
Edit: I didnt vote for the same reason as Sarah. Even in the beginning when I didnt know what this journey was going to be like I still only wanted a healthy child.
i carry your heart with me(i carry it in my heart)
This was my first thought, but if I'm really being honest, I'd love to have a girl, and DH wants a boy. Obviously, we'll be happy either way, though!
I think this question will be more relevant when we already have a LO, because DH and I would both like to have at least one of each gender.
This. Maybe a better way to phrase it would be, what did you want when you first started TTC and didn't imagine it would be the journey is is turning into/has turned into?
Good point. Sorry
No worries. I think this is just a touchy subject with the women here, understandably so, but I think that most people had a preference back when they were just imagining having a baby and not actually TTC. Not all, of course, but I would guess most.
I will be honest and say that I'd always wanted a girl. Even when we started dealing with IF. Now, after my c/p I don't care. I just want a baby. I don't care if it's a boy or girl. If It's born at Christmas or in the summer. I don't care what color eyes it has, or anything like that. I just want a child.
Honestly, I think you are a jerk for leaving out the SS.
I would like to have atleast one of each, but I dont care what comes first. I just want a healthy baby.
The only thing good about having a girl first is that I can borrow all my niece's clothes from my sister!
TTC #1 since Oct 2009, Dx: Unexplained Infertility
HSG: Right tube all clear, left tube inconclusive
3 failed Clomid Cylces
4/5 lap revealed blocked left tube, but right tube is open
April/May- 50 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI #1= CANCELLED left ovary ovulating
June 1- 100 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI #1 = BFN
June 28- 100 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI #2 =BFP!
7/12 Beta #1= 14 Beta #2= >5 Chemical Pregnancy
July-Nov long break to recover emotionally and financially
Nov 24- 100 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI #3= BFN
Jan 22- Gonal-F + Ovidrel + IUI# 4 = CANCELLED no response on right
IVF #1- Start stims 4/7, ER 4/20, 21R, 14F, 6 frosties, ET 4/25, 2 embryos transferred= BFN
FET #1- June 2012, Lurpon starts 5/27- CANCELLED
FET #1 take 2- August 2012, delayed until Sept-CANCELLED
FET #1 take 3- ET 10/11, 2 embryos transferred,= BFFN
FET #2- Transfer 12/4--Cancelled, no embies survived thaw
Next steps-- IVF #2 with new RE in March
HOLY SURPRISE BFP 2/15/13!!!! Beta 1- 286, Beta 2- 782, First Ultrasound 2/25- baby in uterus & all looks good!
I will be honest and say that I'd always wanted a girl. Even when we started dealing with IF. Now, after my c/p I don't care. I just want a baby. I don't care if it's a boy or girl. If It's born at Christmas or in the summer. I don't care what color eyes it has, or anything like that. I just want a child.
Honestly, I think you are a jerk for leaving out the SS.
I will be honest and say that I'd always wanted a girl. Even when we started dealing with IF. Now, after my c/p I don't care. I just want a baby. I don't care if it's a boy or girl. If It's born at Christmas or in the summer. I don't care what color eyes it has, or anything like that. I just want a child.
Honestly, I think you are a jerk for leaving out the SS.
First, I am sorry for your loss.
Second, I feel the same. I very much wanted a girl (though I would have been elated with any baby), then, after my loss, I don't care. I think that my lost baby was a girl, maybe that's why I no longer have a preference.
Third, I think the word "jerk" may be harsh, as it is a public message board, and no one is required to participate in the poll, but I respect your perspective.
I voted girl. Just one girl, then as many boys as God sees fit. I WILL be thrilled with whatever sex our children are, of course, but I look at the relationship I have with my mom, and I would miss that so much. As close as my mom and brothers are, or DH and all of his brothers with MIL, they don't have that "my closest friend" piece that my mom and I have. Plus we have only nephews, growing up my only female cousin lived a 5 hour flight away, DH and I both only have brothers, and I teach children with autism and work exclusively with boys right now (have taught 2 girls in the past...out of 23). Luckily we have a female dog.
Re: Poll: You know you know...
A healthy baby.
Sorry, special snowflake for me it is.
Love & luck to my 3TC girls. Congrats to Omega-The boys are here!
If there's one thing I've learned while waiting my turn,
it's that in each life some rain falls but you also get some sun.
After 2 years & 2 losses, our little man arrived 8-2011.
This was my first thought, but if I'm really being honest, I'd love to have a girl, and DH wants a boy. Obviously, we'll be happy either way, though!
I think this question will be more relevant when we already have a LO, because DH and I would both like to have at least one of each gender.
Either or is fine by me.
ETA: Since special snowflake "isn't an option", I didn't vote.
This. Maybe a better way to phrase it would be, what did you want when you first started TTC and didn't imagine it would be the journey is is turning into/has turned into?
both.
maybe boy/girl twins?
I truly just want a healthy baby.
I've always said that I wanted a boy first, but now, I want a girl. And there hasn't been a baby girl born into my family or DH's family in almost 10 years, so a girl would be nice!
Good point. Sorry
Same, here.
Special smowflake for me. I want a healthy child.
I hope that if we have a girl she doesnt inherit my reproductive issues- but if we do and she does, well cross that bridge when we get there.
Edit: I didnt vote for the same reason as Sarah. Even in the beginning when I didnt know what this journey was going to be like I still only wanted a healthy child.
Cooper+Evie=Soulmates

I think DH would love a girl. I really am a special snowflake. I honestly do not care about the gender as long as I have a healthy baby.
No worries. I think this is just a touchy subject with the women here, understandably so, but I think that most people had a preference back when they were just imagining having a baby and not actually TTC. Not all, of course, but I would guess most.
I will be honest and say that I'd always wanted a girl. Even when we started dealing with IF. Now, after my c/p I don't care. I just want a baby. I don't care if it's a boy or girl. If It's born at Christmas or in the summer. I don't care what color eyes it has, or anything like that. I just want a child.
Honestly, I think you are a jerk for leaving out the SS.
a heartbeat
I would like to have atleast one of each, but I dont care what comes first. I just want a healthy baby.
The only thing good about having a girl first is that I can borrow all my niece's clothes from my sister!
HSG: Right tube all clear, left tube inconclusive
3 failed Clomid Cylces
4/5 lap revealed blocked left tube, but right tube is open
April/May- 50 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI #1= CANCELLED left ovary ovulating
June 1- 100 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI #1 = BFN
June 28- 100 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI #2 =BFP!
7/12 Beta #1= 14 Beta #2= >5 Chemical Pregnancy
July-Nov long break to recover emotionally and financially
Nov 24- 100 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI #3= BFN
Jan 22- Gonal-F + Ovidrel + IUI# 4 = CANCELLED no response on right
IVF #1- Start stims 4/7, ER 4/20, 21R, 14F, 6 frosties, ET 4/25, 2 embryos transferred= BFN
FET #1- June 2012, Lurpon starts 5/27- CANCELLED
FET #1 take 2- August 2012, delayed until Sept-CANCELLED
FET #1 take 3- ET 10/11, 2 embryos transferred,= BFFN
FET #2- Transfer 12/4--Cancelled, no embies survived thaw
Next steps-- IVF #2 with new RE in March
HOLY SURPRISE BFP 2/15/13!!!! Beta 1- 286, Beta 2- 782, First Ultrasound 2/25- baby in uterus & all looks good!
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i am really 50/50. since i have a boy already i think 2 boys would be awesome, but i'd also love a little girl...
at this point i will be lucky to have either
~after 34 cycles we finally got our 2nd little bundle of joy~

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First, I am sorry for your loss.
Second, I feel the same. I very much wanted a girl (though I would have been elated with any baby), then, after my loss, I don't care. I think that my lost baby was a girl, maybe that's why I no longer have a preference.
Third, I think the word "jerk" may be harsh, as it is a public message board, and no one is required to participate in the poll, but I respect your perspective.