Does anyone remember the stats for adoption? (warning: ticker in siggy)

str8ota · March 2010

I remember a post on here of what the percentage is of families that do get pregnant after adoption (I think it's like 8%). I tried googling it but couldn't find actual results and was wondering if anyone knows where I can find this.

I'm trying not to be snarky but a few people of the small amount of people we have told have made comments to me since I have become pregnant, making it sound like this would happen just because we are adopting. I'm sorry, but it pisses me off. I know I should just shrug it off but if I can actually state the correct info maybe I can prevent these people from saying it to others or using me as an example (like I know someone...). Right now I just tell them it had nothing to do with adopting and that I can get pregnant, I just can't stay pregnant, there's no guarantee I'll have a successful pregnancy. I just want facts so people know.

I feel like once we really start telling people I'm going to hear these comments more and I want to be prepared. Thanks everyone.

PSU-NCBride · March 2010

I don't know but congrats! When we announced that we were expecting H's little sister (adopting) I thought everyone knew we were adopting her since I had made it clear I could not get pregnant. I actually had someone say "see I told you it would happen when you stopped trying". That was an awkward moment.

Dr.Loretta · March 2010

https://encyclopedia.adoption.com/entry/pregnancy-after-adoption/285/1.html

ETA: I have already heard the "now you'll get pregnant" routine from my MIL and my ob/gyn. Good times.

fish_n_baby · March 2010

I am COMPLETELY on board with you. Our problem isn't getting pregnant it's CARRYING the baby to term!!!!!! So I agree it irritates me when people say this to me because. If I were to get pregnant right now I couldn't help but be sad because I think I will already know the outcome and I don't want to say good-bye to another angel. So stop saying it people!!

2xSurvivor · March 2010

Congrats on your pregnancy!

I wish I could remember the stats too since I'm in the same boat! I do know that the stats of couples who get pregnant after infertility are the same after adoption as they are in no adoption takes place.

When I feel especially snarky when told, I often reply, "Thanks! I'll call the infertility clinic and let them know you found the cure!" That usually shuts them up!

PhiPrincess · March 2010

Ugh. I am SO tired of hearing that crap line. I'd love to know the stats to throw back!

KasiaB29 · March 2010

I know exactly how you feel. I have heard this line so many times in the last couple of months. This was one of the first things my boss said after we adopted DD. It doesn't even help when I say that we have less than 1 in a million chance of getting pregnant on our own. I tried to do research to find the stats, but instead I found this article (see below for link). A registered nurse is quoted as saying: :"Couples that plan to adopt often find themselves pregnant". I maybe wrong here, but to me less than 10% does not equal "often". Besides knowing someone this has happend to, she has no data to back her statemet up.

https://www.preconception.com/articles/life-circumstances-and-challenges-during-pregnancy/conception-after-adoption-3719/

MainSt · March 2010

Congrats!!!!

We started the DA process late last year and heard that statement quite a few times. I just tell people that that is what everyone seems to think but that isn't our plan so it doesn't really matter. They just kind of stare at me.

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