anyone not feel attached to their LO?

mylo · March 2010

or am I the only one? I'm 6 weeks PP and the maternal thing never kicked in. I just feel like a caregiver and I'm not "in love" with him.

dori1678 · March 2010

Don't feel bad this is completely normal. You will learn to love your LO. If you think it would make you feel better to talk to a professional about it, you certainly wouldn't be the first and you should.

alybookgirl · March 2010

I felt like that for several weeks. It was after I finally admitted to DH and friends how I felt that I began to feel better. I was never depressed, just felt completed disconnected to DD. I probably felt 100% in love by 6 weeks, definitely by 8 weeks. Don't beat yourself up. It is common.

CapitolBaby · March 2010

I've been struggling with the same thing. I thought I'd be over the moon googoo-gaga about her, but I haen't felt that way.

I talked to my cousin about it whom I'm very close to. She has a 9 month old, and she told me that she felt the exact same way, and told me she even resented her baby at times. She assured me that it gets SO much better with time, especially when our babies start responding to us more.

mattperrybride · March 2010

I felt more attached to my daughter then I do my son. It took me three years to get my daughter and I was so overwhelmed when I had her that I did not want to let her out of my sight. We got PG with my son the first month we tried, which I am very glad about. I dont feel like I have the same overwhelming emotions that I did with my daughter. I love my son and cant believe I have two beautiful kids but it is different.

CandiceNT · March 2010

Mylo...it gets better.

I felt like just a milk machine for the longest time. I know it sounds horrible, but going back to work was the best thing for me. Weeks of no sleep, colicky crying for hours on end, etc..really wore on me. Now I am excited to see him when he gets home, and when I get to snuggle on the couch. I also switched to pumping and feeding him from the bottle instead. I know everyone says breastfeeding is bonding time, but I never felt that way. Now he looks at me when he eats, and it just melts my heart.

aegrimm · March 2010

I totally feel like this. I actually think mine might be PPD, though. I'm going to talk to my OB on Tuesday about it.

I thought it would be easier to bond with this one than with DS because I had "been there, done that" so I know what to expect and how much fun it will be in the coming years. But, quite the opposite. I think part of me is upset that she isn't as "fun" and interactive as DS (I know that sounds silly, but oh well). I know it will happen, but I feel like I'm babysitting everyday. I almost wish I would take my maternity leave when she's 4-5 months old instead of now.

You're not alone!

veggieball · March 2010

I am so glad you wrote this post. I feel the same way and I was worried it was baby blues. It does seem like I love him more everyday.

UrbanLe1 · March 2010

I feel like a milk machine. Especially at 2 am when it's just me and him.

People say it gets better. I'm hoping they're right. But you're not alone.

mousede · March 2010

I felt this way too. My dd is about 3 months and I just recently started feeling a motherly connection with her, instead of just her caregiver. Give it time. It's still surreal to me that I'm a mom. I've been an auntie for almost 20 years to 10 nephews and nieces. I'm still getting used to being a mom.

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