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So angry at DH, sort of BR related
Sorry i just need to vent because he does not get it!!! I have been on bedrest for about 2 months. There is a strong likelyhood that I will be put into the hospital on monday for observation and to try and keep the boys in there. Well DD 3rd Birthday is next thursday. I asked DH if we could celebrate DD's birthday this sunday (only 4 days early) incase i end up in the hospital after my peri appointment monday. He said no, He said we have to celebrate it on the acutally day. I explain i may be in the hspital and that it would not be fun/fair to make her celebrate in the hospital. We are not having a huge party, just us, cake, gifts and BIL and SIL. Low key. I tried to explain that most people/kids have their birthday parties on the weekend and still do a little celebrating on this birthday. He still refuses and we got in a fight over it. He just does not get it!!!! Thank you for letting me vent.....i needed to get it out.,
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Re: So angry at DH, sort of BR related
Oh my, I don't understand why he wouldn't go on and celebrate either....I'm with you, celebrate on the weekend and then do something a little special on the actual day, especially since you may be in the hospital.
Guys can be so dense sometimes.
Good Luck and try not to let it bother you too much which ever way it goes. Thankfully at 3, she's probably isn't going to care how or what you do either way!
I am not sure what your hospital rules are but ours won't allow anyone under the age of 18 to visit PERIOD, so you could point out that if he wants to continue to have his head up his bum (sorry if I sound crass) you might not even be able to see your daughter on her birthday!!! I would just set it up and do it and tell him you were not asking permission and she is as much your daughter as she is his!!! At three they don't know that it is not their actual birthday so who is it hurting. Does that mean she can't have a party with her friends when she gets older unless her birthday happens to fall on the weekend!!!!!!!!
Good luck
think smart (we women have that wonderful ability, so use it)
he's being weird! (sorry) it just seems like a weird thing to be inflexible about. maybe he's trying to convince himself that you won't really have to stay in the hospital??
hope he comes around.
My DH and I had the same debate last year for my DD's first birthday - without the pending issue of hospitalization though. He couldn't understand that people have parties on a different day other than their birthday. He never really had birthday parties except for one at McDonald's and it was always a small thing with his immediate family on his actual birthday. I was the opposite and always had a huge party with all my friends to celebrate. Plus, your daughter will enjoy the double celebration and it won't turn her into an egoist like my husband thought. And at three she can understand that this is a party and on Thursday is the actual birthday.
Best of luck with your stubborn fella!