I desperately want DD to be on a schedule like her sister was. DD1 set her own schedule and was like clock work. DD2, however is so sporadic with naps and eating and it's starting to wear on me. She does go to bed at the same time each night, which is about the only thing she does.
Re: Anyone else not have a schedule?
I am only now starting to get the twins down for a nap together each morning. Until now someone was always nursing and someone was always sleeping but never together. With DD#1, her nap is always 5.5 hours after she wakes up- since she wakes at different times. The twins I always put down 3 hours after wake up. One sleeps for 20 minutes, and the other for 30-40. That's about as close to a schedule as we get.
It is frustrating b/c like you, #1 was so easy, set her own schedule, easy to keep up with. With the twins, it's always been reactive, not proactive. Hopefully spring will make it easier to have a schedule when we can always schedule an outing/walk/something.... good luck!
We aren't on a schedule during the day but she does go to bed every night at 10 and sleeps til about 7am. Sometimes I wish we had a schedule but I do love going with the flow.