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Baby shower for #3

cocojack10cocojack10 member
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Opinions?

I know many think it may be tacky.  SIL is pg with #3, and I just realized this week that I'll be hosting it again!  I assisted with #2 as baby is my godson.  We get along fine, but I'm not a huge fan of hers.  Anyway, her mom passed last yr, and her other SIL is just strange!  I'd hate for her not to have one, if she wishes to have one, so I'll more than gladly host. 

Now, she has a boy and a girl, and pretty much kept all the necessities from the other two, so she probably won't need much.  I'm guessing, if she wants anything, it will be more of a sprinkle w/ close friends and family.

Just curious on what others take is on showers for #3.  I see it more as a celebration of the new addition!

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  • MelanieJH1016MelanieJH1016
    I think it's tacky. A friend of ours is having one soon for her #3 and i'm not going. I just think it's silly, I'd rather go to a sip and see after the baby is born or something.
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  • britishbride05britishbride05

    i think this a big cultural thing, too.  everyone in my family has had a shower/sprinkle for all their children, and (yes, i'm generalizing- just basing it on my experiences, though) most Cuban/hispanic families I've known also celebrate for all children.  I've never been to a see and sip before!! 

    I would definitely say keep it small, Jackie.  It's not tacky if you only invite immediate family and her close, close friends.  Don't invite coworkers, extended family, etc...  Keep it small and intimate, maybe a few games and some finger sandwiches, and don't mention if she's registered anywhere.  If anyone asks if she is, you tell them- let it be word of mouth. 

    My invite said "sarah elizabeth (lol before we changed her middle name) is on her way, let's celebrate wtih mommy before the big day!  Join us for a "sprinkle" in honor of the mommy to be."  My sis only invited a few friends and my girl cousins/aunts- it came out to be like 17 people or so.  Very small and intimate!  I didn't even open my gifts in front of everyone.

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  • mjzmjz
    It's not my style, but I think a little sprinkle is OK. Like you said, the focus should be more on the celebration and less on gifts. Diapers are always nice in those situations.
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  • UMwifeUMwife
    I know a lot of people see it as "acceptable" in Miami -- in VA however, it's a big no-no. With that said, my personal opinion is that showers are meant for celebrating the new arrival, and every baby (regardless of birth order) shuold be celebrated. I think a small get together would be appropriate (especially since she already has one of each gender and all the necessary big ticket items). You can have a simple event where everyone brings their favorite childhood storybook for the baby, or a diaper shower. Definitely keep it simple. Oh, and FWIW, I agree with whoever said not to include registry information on the invite. If people choose to get her something, that's fine...but I wouldn't include it on the card and have her expect gifts.
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  • cocojack10cocojack10 member
    Thx! This is what I was thinking. Let's hope she's on the same page! Lol
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  • g8orellg8orell member
    I def. think it's a cultural thing. I'm American, and we typically have baby showers for #1, but that's it, whereas at work, most of the girls are Hispanic and have #2, #3, etc. Maybe have something small, intimate (like all the girls have mentioned) and something like "in lieu of a gift, please bring a children's book that is memorable to you" or something along those lines. Books are always a good thing! And they're pretty cheap...you can get them for $1 at Target!
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  • melly&jimmymelly&jimmy

    I was embarassed but extremely grateful to have two surprise baby sprinkles for baby #3 - one at work and another with friends.  Both were small, simple, and sooo special.  I think it is about making the mom feel special and loved.    It doesn't have to be extravagent - it can be done at someone's home or just meet for lunch at her favorite restaurant.  It would be tacky if she were throwing it herself - but think it's nice of you to want to host.  I wish I had you for a SIL! 

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  • miamicubajammiamicubajam
    Definitely a cultural thing. As you know most cubans celebrate each child's arrival individually. No one baby gets more/less attention than the others. Only thing is that since she has a boy & girl already, I would find it VERY tacky if she even tried making a registry. Definitely a small gathering with a book or diaper theme.
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  • MRS.IHEARTMIKEMRS.IHEARTMIKE

    imageUMwife:
    my personal opinion is that showers are meant for celebrating the new arrival, and every baby (regardless of birth order) shuold be celebrated. I think a small get together would be appropriate (especially since she already has one of each gender and all the necessary big ticket items). You can have a simple event where everyone brings their favorite childhood storybook for the baby, or a diaper shower.

    This, exactly :)

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  • Dash26Dash26
    Instead of gifts, you can ask guests for diapers as a "Wishing well" gift.
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  • MrsJOSEnADRIMrsJOSEnADRI
    I don't see it as tacky at all.  I've been to showers for #s 4, 5, or 6!  Of course, it would be something simpler with maybe just diapers, books, and other essentials as gifts.  I think each baby should be celebrated individually and in some cases in which baby #3 or #4 was a huge surprise and the other kids are grown up, mom and dad may need to start from scratch all over again.
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  • cocojack10cocojack10 member

    imageMrsJOSEnADRI:
    I don't see it as tacky at all.  I've been to showers for #s 4, 5, or 6!  Of course, it would be something simpler with maybe just diapers, books, and other essentials as gifts.  I think each baby should be celebrated individually and in some cases in which baby #3 or #4 was a huge surprise and the other kids are grown up, mom and dad may need to start from scratch all over again.

    I agree that they are prob more necessary if the older children are out of the house... but in the case of SIL, youngest is 2 yrs old.  LOL

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  • taxbridetaxbride
    The Peruvian community that I grew up with never had showers past baby #1 (and neither did the Americans) unless it was a "surprise" baby that came much later, so I never heard of this before, and I never heard of a "sprinkle" before this year.  But if that's what is expected among your group, then who cares if I think it's tacky?
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  • VandRickyVandRicky

    honestly, I would be MORTIFIED if anyone even suggested it, I told Eric that if he even heard that a surprise was going to happen to make sure it did NOT happen. Especially since we are having our THIRD boy, now if I was having a girl, I would feel a little different about it.

    I do think though that every child should be celebrated and so we might do a "meet the baby" bbq or just have a bigger party at his baptism so that everyone can meet him (I think his baptism will be within his first month).

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  • YapYap0813YapYap0813 member

    I really did not want to have a shower for baby #2 considering I was having another girl, and 20 months apart at that. My mom insisted however that we have something, with the same reason that every baby should be celebrated. So I agreed to have a diaper shower. It was still a lot of people because Sean has such a large family and if you invite one aunt, you have to invite the other, and the other etc.

     If we have a 3rd baby, I really would like to just have a gtg with close family and friends after he/she is born but I don't think either family would let that happen lol!

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  • ANJ410ANJ410

    I think a very casual sprinkle is fine.  Diapers, wipes and basic necessities like burp clothes, bibs, etc are always needed, no matter how many kids you already have,. Personally, I think it is super tacky when people register for their 2nd or 3rd child, so I hope she is not planning on doing that. If she wants a new stroller or other big ticket items, that is up to her to get them, unless someone specifically offers to buyit for her.

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  • MellyMelBMellyMelB

    imagemjz:
    It's not my style, but I think a little sprinkle is OK. Like you said, the focus should be more on the celebration and less on gifts. Diapers are always nice in those situations.

    This.

    I can tell you honestly, that I am almost embarrassed to have another one so soon! My MIL really wants to throw me a shower since my mom and sister did it for me last time and since my SIL had one for all three of her kids. But as much as I like a good party - I don't want one that is centered around gifts and I told her so. If we do anything its going to be a co-ed bbq thing with the words, "gifts not necessary but diapers welcome" on the invite. With NO opening gifts at the party. I am not going to register again. DH and I have already talked about what big ticket items we need this time around and are budgeting for them. So, again...the shower is a big "maybe". I still do not feel comfortable about it. I would definitely NOT feel comfortable with a third if I already had a boy and a girl.

    What makes you think it falls on you to plan one....and what makes you think she wants one?

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