and the father of the year award goes to.... (long vent)

anyone BUT my X. He picked up DS yesterday at 3 and asked about the cheque from the closing of the house, but it wasnt in as of then. He said "damn, I was kinda hoping it would be in" .. yea me too, but what's one more day? anyways. Then he tells me that he may have to drop DS off earlier then 5:30 because his parents just got a new dog and he doesn't want to leave the new dog alone with their other dog... Except I work til 5:30 so now I have to find care for him til then... Thanks... I texted him later on to tell him the cheque was in and ask what time I can expect DS because I apparently need to arrange care. He said that he would bring DS around 3... Fine. I can deal with 2 1/2 hours.

Then this morning... as I start work... X texts me and here is the conversation:

X: Kelly (his aunt) called this morning. Wanted me to come for 1.... I dont know what to do

X: Hello!

Me: Mornin

X: what should I do?

Me: I cant make that call

X: I need some advice mel. thats why im asking. i am enjoying my time with my son. but i really need the money

Me: You need to decide this one X

X: and for the record you r walking away from the house with money. after i pay the electric bill. which you havent paid since november. plus the final bill i wont have any. you said u were afraid that i was going to comeout with all of my half. but u were the one that ends up with money. not upset or anything. just pointing out the reverse (side note: hydro is in his name, i moved out 2 weeks after him. i was more worried about paying off all of my bills and keeping my name out of the mud)

me:and for the record that's not true. if you want me to spell out my debt I will. And i couldnt afford to pay bills X

X: i know you couldnt afford to pay bills. and once i pay off everythingthing on my end i will be going into my paycheck becasue the money is gone

me: and my situation isnt the same?

X: I am going to bring him now. i just have to collect his stuff

me: ok

X: your dad paying for your lawyer?

me: no I am (side note: why does it matter?! that isn't debt made in the marriage)

X: I am paying rent I am paying my lawyer. And i am paying a electric bill from the time i wasnt living in my house

X: and from your financial statement my lawyer things yours is going to try and get me to pay half of the debt too (side note: it CLEARLY says at the end of my statement that once the house closes I will be paying off my debt with the proceeds)

I didn't respond at that point. I'm just so flustered. I woke up and knew it was going to be a GREAT day today... Sun is shining, ready to work, looking good... then 5 minutes before I start work he drops the bomb. Like honestly why is he even PLAYING the daddy role??! He hasn't seen DS since Feb 18th... And even THEN he dropped the ball parenting and I missed an hour of work because of it!!! This makes me feel really bad for DD becasue she isn't even born yet and I will be subjecting her to a lousy father! I know some would argue that "kids need their daddy". But really? My kids DON'T need a flake of a father. They dont need someone who is going to be in and out of their life. They dont need someone who will ONLY decide to play with them because there will be a HUGE cheque waiting. They don't need someone who is going to parade their new relationship all over facebook in attempts to hurt their mom (which is doesn't, I'm better then that and I dont need a man to keep me happy.. I get to spend the better part of my days with my LOs). They don't need a father who is try to guilt their mom into feeling bad for HIS financial issues. I honestly wish there was a way for us single ladies who STRUGGLE daily because of the losers we slept with to show a judge just how lame these boys are as fathers.

thanks for reading.