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CIO will work IF....

amjayasuriyaamjayasuriya
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It doesnt kill you first!

Last night was night one and for 22 excruciating minutes Juliana cried and I stuck my face next to the faucet on high in the kitchen sink so I couldnt hear and bawled my eyes out. DH checked on her at 11 and 20 minutes and she went to sleep after that but MAN. OH. MAN. its tough stuff...here is hoping for a better night!! (Btw, this is our LAST resort after she gets up 4-5 times a night and we have tried EVERYTHING (literally) else!)

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  • Mrs.R0908Mrs.R0908
    Is she waking up to eat? I personally wouldn't ever CIO but definitely not that young. Just my opinion though.
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  • mommy~to~mjmommy~to~mj
    Don't worry - it will get better. And if it is anything like our experience you will have a better rested, happier baby. (And parents, too!)
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  • Daisy525Daisy525 member

    We're doing Ferber for naps (DS has always been a wonderful night sleeper) and it does get better crying wise after the first day. The first day of ferber naps was pure hell, the next day was better and each day improved with less and less crying. By day four there was no crying just a little fussing and lots of chatting. I will warn you of the possibilty that LO may after 5days go back to crying like the 1st day. DS did that but it only lasted about 2 days and then he went back to just chatting and slight fussing. GL!

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  • maui24maui24
    It will get better and fast. I promise!!
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  • CTJourneyCTJourney
    I know it's hard, but in the long run you are giving your child the gift of sleep.  DS also woke several times a night, and he napped terribly during the day.  He was cranky and miserable all the time.  We tried everything but nothing worked except letting him CIO.  He is now sleeping almost 12 hours at night with waking up only 1 time to eat.  And in the past few days his naps are starting to extend from 30 minutes to 1 1/2 hours.  Most importantly, he's becoming a much happier baby which tells me we're doing the right thing.  Good Luck!  You'll get through this. 
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  • amjayasuriyaamjayasuriya
    Thanks for the support ladies! And to the first reply...she never eats when she gets up, just fussed until we went to her every time....and she used to STTN for over a month and just began to get worse and worse...I know she can do it and like I said, we have tried everything else and I am literally verging on a nervous breakdown if things dont change....
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  • pallorinapallorina
    We did CIO and it improved LO's sleep so much. He slept 7 hours straight the first couple of nights but returned to his classic 4am wakeup soon after. The difference is that he can put himself to sleep easily now, and at the 4am wakeup I just give him the bink for a minute and say "bedtime" and he is good to go.
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  • maui24maui24

    imageamjayasuriya:
    Thanks for the support ladies! And to the first reply...she never eats when she gets up, just fussed until we went to her every time....and she used to STTN for over a month and just began to get worse and worse...I know she can do it and like I said, we have tried everything else and I am literally verging on a nervous breakdown if things dont change....

    You are doing the right thing. Don't you just love when people who have an opinion about your parenting choice feel the need to let you know when you have clearly not asked for it?  Honestly, I don't understand why they even comment...you were clearly looking for support rather than a guilt trip. Good luck and like pp said, you are giving your LO the gift of sleep Confused

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  • wacissej2wacissej2
    Honestly 22 minutes isn't bad at all! But we did checks at 5-, 10- and 15-minutes so it didn't feel so bad. Hang in there it gets soooo much better! And you're teaching her how to sleep!
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  • Mrs.R0908Mrs.R0908
    imagemaui24:

    imageamjayasuriya:
    Thanks for the support ladies! And to the first reply...she never eats when she gets up, just fussed until we went to her every time....and she used to STTN for over a month and just began to get worse and worse...I know she can do it and like I said, we have tried everything else and I am literally verging on a nervous breakdown if things dont change....

    You are doing the right thing. Don't you just love when people who have an opinion about your parenting choice feel the need to let you know when you have clearly not asked for it?  Honestly, I don't understand why they even comment...you were clearly looking for support rather than a guilt trip. Good luck and like pp said, you are giving your LO the gift of sleep Confused

     It wasn't meant to be a guilt trip, thank you. I've seen alot of CIO posts on here and alot of the time their LO is still pretty young and waking up to eat... which is why I asked.

    And to the poster... good luck! Hope it works for you.... I know how frustrating it is.

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  • kross605kross605 member
    I also tried everything I could think of, read, or get advice on prior to resorting to CIO so I understand the brink of a nervous breakdown feeling you have! In my experience the first night and the first nap were terrible and I wasnt sure if I could go through it a second time. The second day and every day after have been much better. Each day is different, some days she silently goes to sleep other days theres 1/2 hour of crying and fussing and wiggling but its never been that bad and I always stalk the video monitor and check on her frequently so she knows Im there.  It really will get better. Stick with it. Visit her often for peace of mind, but youre NOT hurting her if you let her cry for 10 or 15 minutes.
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  • maui24maui24
    imageMrs.R0908:
    imagemaui24:

    imageamjayasuriya:
    Thanks for the support ladies! And to the first reply...she never eats when she gets up, just fussed until we went to her every time....and she used to STTN for over a month and just began to get worse and worse...I know she can do it and like I said, we have tried everything else and I am literally verging on a nervous breakdown if things dont change....

    You are doing the right thing. Don't you just love when people who have an opinion about your parenting choice feel the need to let you know when you have clearly not asked for it?  Honestly, I don't understand why they even comment...you were clearly looking for support rather than a guilt trip. Good luck and like pp said, you are giving your LO the gift of sleep Confused

     It wasn't meant to be a guilt trip, thank you. I've seen alot of CIO posts on here and alot of the time their LO is still pretty young and waking up to eat... which is why I asked.

    And to the poster... good luck! Hope it works for you.... I know how frustrating it is.

    If it wasn't meant to be a guilt trip then I would avoid saying things like the following.

    "I personally wouldn't ever CIO but definitely not that young. Just my opinion though." 

     I would guess this didn't make her feel all warm and fuzzy and supported. Just a thought...

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  • Mrs.R0908Mrs.R0908

    I don't need to justify my comment to you but like I said.... it wasn't meant to make her feel guilty.

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  • spwspwspwspw member
    imageamjayasuriya:

    It doesnt kill you first!

    Last night was night one and for 22 excruciating minutes Juliana cried and I stuck my face next to the faucet on high in the kitchen sink so I couldnt hear and bawled my eyes out. DH checked on her at 11 and 20 minutes and she went to sleep after that but MAN. OH. MAN. its tough stuff...here is hoping for a better night!! (Btw, this is our LAST resort after she gets up 4-5 times a night and we have tried EVERYTHING (literally) else!)

    Yes, it will definitely get better.  And you'll be amazed at how quickly she learns to put herself to sleep.  I used to have to bounce DD for over an hour for naps and nighttime to get her to fall asleep and have to put her in her crib when she was completely sleeping or else all hell would break loose.  Now I can put her down fully awake and she just falls asleep on her own.  And at night, I can see on the video monitor that when she wakes up between sleep cycles, she is able to fall back asleep on her own.  She is so much happier now that she is well rested.

    And I also had to turn on the kitchen sink so I couldn't hear DD cry.  It was definitley MUCH tougher than I ever thought it was going to be, but so worth it.

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  • amjayasuriyaamjayasuriya
    Thanks again for all these comments!! I really appreciate knowing other ladies have survived this and that it does get better....I truly only want what is best for her and good sleep will be that I believe. I will just imagine all of you strong ladies going through this same thing when we try again tonight!!
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