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bellaleanne
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*walk in, look around....jaw drop*
bellaleanne
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Damn y'all.
I'm so glad I missed all this. Seriously.
On the other hand, thank you for the shocking and hilarious text....I can browse leisurely while my son naps.
*kicks up feet* Anyone else entirely amused?
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Re: *walk in, look around....jaw drop*
this guy lol
I just finished getting caught up on todays drama.
While I am used to seeing it on all of the other boards, I can not believe some of the things that people said. I mean really, how low of a blow do some people want to put out there?!
Not everyone on here is a teenaged single parent, or a single parent by choice. So no, she wasn't comparing infertility to being a teenaged single parent by choice.
She's saying many of the posts were making fun of our situation, yet if we were to do go and do that on the TTTC and TIP boards it would not be acceptable, so why is it here?
::Sigh:: I wish my life was so incredibly boring that I had to go on a public forum and stir up drama. Unfortunately, I'm a single mom of two and full time graduate student trying to help my DD recover from being raped by her father.
I hate that one of the few places I can go to for support is being overrun by judgmental harpies. I've had enough drama to last me the rest of my life. Hopefully the drama will die down soon.
It's a Single Parents board. Of course we're going to have people on here in tough situations...and yes, some of them will be teenagers, because 1 in 4 women in America will become mothers before they hit their 20's. If you get pregnant as a teen, as many people do...there is no easy option. God forbid these young women step up to the plate, decide to take responsibility, and be mothers to their children. Of course they have some growing up to do...they're teenagers. Maturity will come with experience...it's only logical.
Actually ::raises hand:: I got flamed for not only having a rocky marriage that didn't work out when I was pg, but for being a terrible, terrible dog owner who left their dog out in the yard and XH took him.
Oh and there was this lovely bit too:
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~Be a Good Wife ~ Updated 2.28.10 - The Godfather Sauce, French Onion Soup, Meatballs
"The old classic names are all words or mean something. Tell me what Brylee means, other than "she who stands with a g-string, a tramp stamp, and lots of ones." " - BB on made up trendy namesI think it may be in out best interests to see if the nest would assign us a moderator. While I am far from innocent from the snark and sarcasm some of today's comments were beyond acceptable. What do you guys think?
I think that's a pretty good idea. There may not be much action, but times like these I think we need one just in case.
Agreed...I have a pretty thick skin and just used sarcasm back at them but I seriously couldn't believe how judgemental and awful some of the comments were...including things about ppl on social support, generalizations about all of us, and my fav was when they lumped all of us together by saying that we were only here if our husbands cheated on us....which, btw mine did! But not everyone's situation on this board is exactly the same.
I think for the most part the trolls stay clear of this board but for some reason my post about the dog got them all fired up....they came in droves after that.
I just laugh at those who blame feminism for their absurdly poor life choices and lazy ways.
And people were mocking the teenaged mothers "U don't know my lyfe" nonsense and bad baby names. Not single parents in general. I didn't see anyone doing that.
(citation needed)
Unfortunately, as a human, everyone is going to think about life differently. If you study philosophy, people have all different reasons for why life has a purpose. Albeit some people come across more immature in their thinking than others, who is anyone to pass judgement. You do not know them personally, as people grow, they change the way they feel about things and anyone here trying to beat it into their heads is just losing their battle. Nobody changes because you force them.
I don't believe anyone blamed "feminism" for becoming pregnant. (I'm sure you could be flaming me because I said when I wanted to grow up I wanted to be a mother. I enjoy working - I love socializing with people and I'm awesome at what I do, but if I had the choice, I would love even more to raise my daughter and spend my days with her) - this does not make me a bad person, it is how I would rather spend my life. Some ladies enjoy working and would go crazy being at home all the time, it is all in how we are wired and often in how we were raised ourselves. Not one of the ladies speaking in the post in question said, "well I decided to get knocked up because I wanted to be a mother at a young age relying on government assistance." You are all taking things way out of perspective and passing judgement without knowing where people are coming from or what stories make up their background.
As for the "teen posters" - for two of them, it was their first time posting on the SP board. It is unfair to assume that all of us are in the same categories in life or we got to the same places because of the same actions. However, who is it to tell anyone they shouldn't have a safe place to find security and support? We've done an amazing job keeping each other motivated and supported through the tough situations we've been in. If the girls are looking for the support to be a good mother, you have no reason to tell them they should be smart by giving the child up for adoption, or worse, by murdering the child (abortion). I guarentee that you all know mothers who had their child when they were in high school, or just out of it and were unmarried. And I'm sure that many of these ladies rose up and were amazing mothers to their children and have been productive members of society. Again, you have no right to judge the future of anyone. Watching TV and relating a teen parent to MTV is uneducated. Watching any form of TV and not realizing it has a biased view is being uneducated. I'm sure on your PCE board you have enough drama about which news channel to watch (because, again, their all biased toward the party in which the belong). And I'm sure you can jump back there and fight over more useless topics like, "liberals are quacks" or "republicans are old fashioned," and again, you're not going to get anywhere because everyone has their own belief system.
To make a final point, you're all going to continue to post even though it is useless. (You all must have been the finest of the debate teams at your respective alma maters) And everyone is going to continue to pass judgement even though in the end it doesn't make a difference because you're just raising your own blood pressure. In educated reality, you would realize the bantering is pointless and your actions are not getting you anywhere. It would be appreciated that you all return to your respective boards and leave us to ours.
Now who is going to be the first 'educated' person to say, "Well we would leave if we thought you honestly changed your opinion or life choice?"
I'm sorry, what was your point? It's "judgment" for god's sakes "judgment."
The loser OP blamed women for her not being motivated to work and why women are having babies so late.
I reacted to her nonsense. Yours? Yeah, I can't even make sense of it.
Feminism isn't about making all women go out and pursue careers and "be more like men," whatever that means. Feminism is about equipping women to be independent and self-sufficient. It's about giving women a choice. If you could afford it, you'd choose to stay home. That's great - if I could afford it I would too. But thanks to feminism, I'm able to have a good job and support my family while my husband is in school. Thanks to feminism my mom didn't have to wait for ages to get a divorce from my alcoholic ass_hole father. Thanks to feminism, she had an education and something to fall back on when she could no longer stay home and had to go out and find a job to support her family. Feminism isn't the problem.
And yes, everything I've ever learned about teenaged mothers I learned from watching MTV.
::eyeroll::
oh thank gawd... because I actually thought for a second you were trying to make sense out of being here
Ha ha ha you should hang out on the TIP board for a while. We have only every reported that dip stick Gup. Throwing insults at TIPers always gives us a good laugh. Followed by
I bet she says she feels sorry for our husbands because you are all a bunch of bitter hags/b!tches.
Time to put on your big girl panties
I've got your rainbows and ponies right here