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Joint legal custody?
Oxygen Waster is really being a douche now. He was served final divorce papers in jail last week and my lawyer just heard back from him. He is cool with everything except he wants joint legal custody. Um, NO! In the initial divorce hearing, he couldn't even tell the judge what legal custody WAS, let alone he should have some! He's just doing this as a way of control, not because he really cares about his son. He wants to dictate DS go to expensive schools and daycares but will I ever see a dime to pay for it? NOPE! He wants to have a say in DS's medical decisions but he NEVER wants to pay attention to him when he's healthy, nevermind when he's sick! And that was BEFORE he went to the clink when he had all the time in the world to bond with DS. OW was too busy going out, spending all my money, and living the single life to really spend any time with his son. And clearly he can't make good decisions for himself otherwise he wouldn't be in jail awaiting trial on charges of RAPE and POSESSION (among others) so what makes him think he can decide what is best for our son? Jeebus Christ, this dude is wasting my oxygen AND giving me a headach.
My lawyer doesn't think there is a chance in hell he will get joing legal custody. We go to court on thursday to deal with the condo and he will be presented with the papers again to sign. If he still has that stick up his buttt and wants to be difficult, we are going to take him to court and let the judge decide. I can't imagine a judge saying, "he seems like such a great guy and dad, we should totally give him 50% legal custody!" I think Captain Incarcerated is equating parental rights to legal custody and if he doesn't have some legal custody then he doesn't have any parental rights. I can only dream of him giving up parental rights... The more he talks, the dumber he sounds...
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Re: Joint legal custody?
He sounds like a great guy, any judge would grant him his every wish... NOT!!!!
Part of me hopes that the charges stick for him, one more reason for ANY judge to take away his right!!
GL!
Yeah, let a judge decide that.
Though in my state, my stbxh and I have joint legal custody. I am the girls primary parent, so I make the decisions and don't have to consult with him first.
This is good to know because I am filing for joint legal and sole physical. I wondered what it entailed.
I see why you call him OW. I think you will have no problems with a judge making the right decision.
I have joint legal custody of my kids, but I make any and all decisions for them w/o consulting DB. It works for me bc he really doesn't give a crap anyway.
This is what I thought about my OWDB (I like the sound of that). But really, it requires more effort than he is willing to put forth.
Good luck on Thursday!!
he sounds like an a**hole. I'm glad your keeping him out, he doesn't care about your son, so he should just butt out. I know how you feel though. My X told me to get rid of it then when I was really hurt for like a month he came around and wanted to make all the desicions for the baby, and I was like 'what the hell, you didn't even want it!' I hate guys who treat girls bad and think that they can control everything.