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Work dilemma..need opinions

tammygltammygl
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So I didn't know if I was going back to work. Financially and mentally it is a hard decision for me. I have 4 kids, 3 of whom will be 3 and under.

So my boss finally says just come back and see if you can handle it.  Not a big deal to her at all.  She WAS fine with this.  Completely understanding.
 
We are a small office and already have more poeple than we need so I guess that is why she didn't care.  Well Friday a girl walks in for a interview.  Call in coincidence, I don't know.  I just know I am going out in 2 months and she is all of a sudden interviewing someone.  When I ask her about it she says, " Well I don't know how you would do it with 3 little ones, I mean what about when they are sick?"  For one you told me to come back and give it a try.  You knew I was going to have  4 kids.  She really has been understanding until now.
 
Ok so what are you saying?  I am confused.  How would you guys take this?  Maybe I am just being emotional. I don't know.  I just know I do not have much longer and a decision needs to be made

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Re: Work dilemma..need opinions

  • ishawnamcmishawnamcm
    Take a deep breath.  Ask her about the option of returning part time to start, you can see how tha works out and then make a decision.  As an employer she is keeping all her ducks in a row.
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  • rlscheckrlscheck member
    Some places will look for temporary help (like for maternity leave) with the possibility of full-time afterwards.  So maybe she just wants someone for when you're gone who could possibly take your place if you decide not to come back.
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  • katesmom73katesmom73
    Small offices are tough - in a large company, there are policies and procedures that they (typically) don't go back on.  I've worked for a small company before and they would often say a lot of things but never come through.  Even if you get this in writing and they re-neg on it, will you have any recourse?  I think you need to protect yourself and make a decision - will you come back or not?  You can't rely on their good graces if you do need to come back financially.
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  • bedebum13bedebum13 member

    I work in a small office as well and I know that sometimes when one person is gone for an extended period of time it can really cripple the daily operations of the office.  Also, she may just want to be prepared in case you decide not to come back, she may actually be trying to ease that pressure.  I mean, it is fairly difficult to find good people these days (at least it seems that way).  I guess I just don't think it is awful that a small office is trying to be proactive and cover their own needs in addition to being flexible with your wishes. 

    Try not to worry about too much, talk to her though so that you can both be on the same page. 

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  • MWoodsideMWoodside member
    Is your leave protected?  I am guessing no b/c you indicated it's a small office.  If that's the case they can really do whatever they want.  It sucks, but they are probably just planning for the worst case scenario of you not returning.

    DD1 born 5/24/10.

    Missed M/C at 14 wks Feb 2012.

    DD2 born 5/14/13.

    Missed M/C at 9 wks July 2015.

    Expecting someone new 4/17/17.
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  • tammygltammygl
    She has been very flexible.  I will give her that.  She just told me that she wouldn't even replace me b/c she doesn't need anyone that is why she didn't really care.  I guess she has changed her mind.
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  • MrsMoody2006MrsMoody2006 member
    The decision is up to you, and she can't fire you because of maternity leave
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