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Is PPD affecting your relationship?

sam19sam19 member
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When I'm depressed I get super lazy. I have absolutely no desire to do anything. Even with my anti depressants I haven't been in the mood to do much. I pretty much just do what I HAVE to do to get by and all the other stuff gets ignored. I know I'm doing this but I can't get the energy or desire to do anything more.

This behaviour is really starting to bother my husband. He finds himself having to pick up where I left off. He asked me the other night if I thought I was living up to my full potential. The truth is I'm not.

I don't know what to do but my marriage is really suffering. If something doesn't change soon I don't think there will be a marriage for much longer.

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Re: Is PPD affecting your relationship?

  • jagsfan10jagsfan10
    How long have you been on the antidepressants? I think you should talk to your doctor. I'm not one, but it sounds like maybe what you're on is not all that effective for you. But there are plenty out there! It sounds like all of my depression episodes to me.
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  • souledoutgirlsouledoutgirl
    I agree with the other response, and I would just add that maybe you can suggest to your husband to read up on PPD/find support for spouses? There are books out there for those who are married to someone with depression. My mom has been really depressed for 13 years, and my dad had a really hard time with it at first until he read up on it. I know my DH has a hard time with my anxiety sometimes, and I have to remind him of things my therapist said for him. Sorry you're having a hard time. :(
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  • KrystalD7KrystalD7 member

    I think it did for a while, but once I really opened up to him about it and had a complete meltdown in front of him, I think he realized how hard it can be for me to get motivated some days. He still has moments where he get frusterated and annoyed with me, but he also knows that being an ass to me or making me feel worse is not going to help the situation at all.

    I try to be as open as possible with him about it, even when that is the hardest thing to do. Explaining any form of depression to someone who hasnt experienced it before is like explaining cold darkness to someone who has only lived in warm sunshine. They will never fully understand it, no matter how much they try, but they have to be willing to give it their best for your sake.

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