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Babies on the Brain
I'm about to go insane. (vent)
DH works as most dh's do. But he's so friggin' lazy when he comes home. Does absolutely nothing!!! NOTHING! around the house. This includes caring for the Butterbean. If he thinks the BB's hungry he tells me. If he thinks the BB has a dirty diaper, he tells me. And I respond, "so what are you going to do about it?" Then he usually gets pissed. But I'm pissed he wants me to do everything.
He won't take out the trash, he won't put his dishes in the friggin dishwasher after I've just loaded it. He'll just leave his dirty dishes sitting outside of the sink. And I've purposely let the trash pile up and the dishes pile up just to see if he'll take care of either one of them. Nope. Doesn't do anything. ANYTHING!!! I do it all!
When he comes home, he 1. turns on his crime shows 2. sits on the couch 3. makes himself something to eat (even though I've fixed dinner) and usually complains about what I make. Sorry it's not a heart attack diet. 4. Then he gets on the computer or plays video games.
Way to spend quality time with us a-hole!!!!! If he's not going to help out around the house at least pay attention to your child.
VENT OVER. . . for now.
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Re: I'm about to go insane. (vent)
If that were my DH, I'd take the TV, computer, video games and even the couch out of the house. You want to act like a spoiled teenager, then you are going to get treated like one. If you don't do your part around the house, then you don't get to play your games or watch your stupid TV shows.
If I could thrown the tv out I would! But it's a friggin' big screen that I can't move. ugh!
Remove the cable boxes? Cut the power cord?
take the cable box or dvr!
Now those I can do!
JB- That sucks giant hairy donkey balls. I'm absolutely positive I would not be able to deal with that.
Want me to "re-educate" him? (it involves hot pokers and lashes)
Ugh, I'm sorry JB.
It would be punishing yourself more than him to let dishes and trash pile up, but you can always not do his laundry and other things that are only his. If he complains about dinner one night don't make it for him the next night, and then tell him why he doesn't get your food that night. I'd be tempted to sell his video games to pay for a maid service but that would probably cause ridiculous problems that aren't worth it. Can you arrange to go out one or two nights a week so that he HAS to take care of BB?
Have you looked into marriage counseling? Maybe he needs an impartial outsider to tell him he's being a douche and to get his act together.
I have 2 friends who went through this.
I'm on the phone - hard to type - leave baby with him for an extended period of time so he knows what you go through every day.
Um, please! Seriously, I don't even want to be in the house with him anymore. The Butterbean and I do our own thing now. And you know what's seriously sad, he wants male attention so bad, he'll attach himself to any male figure around. Like yesterday, we went out to eat with some of my friends. And he wanted to be held by one of my guy friends the whole time. It's soooo sad. I could just burst into tears.
Wow. I don't know what to say b/c if DH acted like that he'd leave the house in an ambulance and I'd leave in handcuffs. You need to have a serious conversation, possibly with a professional to help you. He sounds like he's acting like a prick.
"This ribbon has been reported." - lovesnina
That's it, I'm bringing the Barney tapes too. I can torture him while I torture him. That breaks my heart. ((((Hugs for you and Bbean))))
This---and this is one of the main reasons we are in marriage counseling now. It does seem to be helping so far.
TTC#1 Chart
TTC#2 Chart
IUI #1 - #4 (repronex trigger) = BFN
IUI#5 on 10/28/2008 ** BFP 11/10/08 ** EDD 07/21/09 *** It's a GIRL (07/14/09)
med/treatment free BFP 06/28/10. EDD 03/05/11 *** GIRL #2 (02/23/11)
beta#1 @ 17dpo = 1296 .... beta#2 @ 19dpo = 3034
it's the Bug and Baby Belle!
If he would agree to marriage counseling I'd go in a heartbeat. We have become so disconnected. It's really sad. We still talk to each other and laugh every now and then. But he' become more like a roommate that pisses me off constantly. ugh!
And I would love to leave the BB and him to have some quality time. But his work schedule sucks. And he works a lot of weekends. So when I'm free and can go do things, he's working.