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BetchySprout · March 2010

My home board is slow this morning so I ventured back to snoop at the Ingender Gender Disappointment boards.

WHY do I do this to myself? I stupidly opened the post of a woman talking about some gender chart and OMGZ it won't be the boy I always wanted because the ridiculous thing says girl. There is a respondant there who has 9 children...6 girls, 3 boys, and twin girls on the way (her second set of twin girls). I only read there now and again because my best friend has 5 girls and really wants a son. This other woman though has a 9 month old DD, a 2 year old, etc. etc. and is having healthy twins soon. I am usually a "walk a mile" type of person but seriously, some people need to learn how to count their blessings.

Jewlz018 · March 2010

OMG

Sorry gotta bring this out again:

PGASTL · March 2010

Oh man, that board would totally make me bang my head on a wall!

ECUGirl2004 · March 2010

Stay away from that board! Seriously, just STAY away!

I've never read it, but I've seen it referenced here and on other boards I visit, and I know that it would drive me bonkers. I just do not get it at all. I can understand wanting to have a baby of the opposite gender just to experience both genders, but to actually be disappointed or to feel like you can't bond with your baby because of its gender is ridiculous.

Go look at www.cuteoverload.com instead.

j_luvs_r · March 2010

I refuse to go to that board, but the whole idea of "gender disappointment" blows my mind. I just don't get it and never have!

j_luvs_r · March 2010

ECUGirl2004:
I can understand wanting to have a baby of the opposite gender just to experience both genders, but to actually be disappointed or to feel like you can't bond with your baby because of its gender is ridiculous.

This exactly!!!!!

j_luvs_r · March 2010

ECUGirl2004:
Stay away from that board! Seriously, just STAY away!

I've never read it, but I've seen it referenced here and on other boards I visit, and I know that it would drive me bonkers. I just do not get it at all. I can understand wanting to have a baby of the opposite gender just to experience both genders, but to actually be disappointed or to feel like you can't bond with your baby because of its gender is ridiculous.

Go look at www.cuteoverload.com instead.

And thank you for cuteoverload!

Foutzie44 · March 2010

oy vey. I dont get it either.

j_luvs_r · March 2010

piecesofflare:
I read a post on there by a woman who had twin boys through IVF, but wanted a girl. She convinced her husband that they should go to Thailand for a process where you go through IVF and they have a better chance of selecting gender before transfer, but before they left she found out she was pregnant naturally. At 12 weeks she found out it was another boy and aborted. She said that if it had been a girl she'd still be pregnant.

People disgust me.

That makes me feel homicidal.

Sweetdream415 · March 2010

Eww, that board is disgusting. I hated how the girl kept saying that she is "getting" a girl, and she thought she would "get" a boy. Since when do you "get" babies?....

BetchySprout · March 2010

piecesofflare:

I read a post on there by a woman who had twin boys through IVF, but wanted a girl. She convinced her husband that they should go to Thailand for a process where you go through IVF and they have a better chance of selecting gender before transfer, but before they left she found out she was pregnant naturally. At 12 weeks she found out it was another boy and aborted. She said that if it had been a girl she'd still be pregnant.

People disgust me.

OMFG Angry Angry Angry

Picture those red faces as my head exploding.

ETA: I am really curious how she found out boy at 12 weeks. It had to be a CVS test, amnio comes later, and u/s is inaccurate at that time. I want to know what doctor would do an unnecessary CVS just for sex determination. Awful.

LadyXaverian · March 2010

piecesofflare:
I read a post on there by a woman who had twin boys through IVF, but wanted a girl. She convinced her husband that they should go to Thailand for a process where you go through IVF and they have a better chance of selecting gender before transfer, but before they left she found out she was pregnant naturally. At 12 weeks she found out it was another boy and aborted. She said that if it had been a girl she'd still be pregnant.

People disgust me.

Super Angry

Sweetdream415 · March 2010

piecesofflare:

I read a post on there by a woman who had twin boys through IVF, but wanted a girl. She convinced her husband that they should go to Thailand for a process where you go through IVF and they have a better chance of selecting gender before transfer, but before they left she found out she was pregnant naturally. At 12 weeks she found out it was another boy and aborted. She said that if it had been a girl she'd still be pregnant.

People disgust me.

I cannot believe this! This may be way harsh, but I hope that she never gets pregnant again. People like that do not deserve to have children.

BetchySprout · March 2010

Great. I just saw another one, she has 14 kids, a good mix of both, the last 4 have been boys and she has extreme gender disappointment. She "tends to have preemies" and barely visits the boys/doesn't pump breastmilk for them when they are in the NICU (BM can be very beneficial to preemies).

That makes me so freaking sad for her little boys.

MrsB1010 · March 2010

piecesofflare:
I read a post on there by a woman who had twin boys through IVF, but wanted a girl. She convinced her husband that they should go to Thailand for a process where you go through IVF and they have a better chance of selecting gender before transfer, but before they left she found out she was pregnant naturally. At 12 weeks she found out it was another boy and aborted. She said that if it had been a girl she'd still be pregnant.

People disgust me.

Indifferent

j_luvs_r · March 2010

piecesofflare:
WHY does anyone think this is okay?

It makes me want to puke that there is an ENTIRE message board of people who think it's ok.

BetchySprout · March 2010

Mrs.Bones:

It makes me mad, too, but to be honest, it sounds like it's more of a psychological condition than just plain ol' stupidity, ya know?

Like, they already have the desire for a boy or girl, and then find out they aren't having what they want. That disappointment + pg hormones + a possible chemical imbalance could definitely lead to these shiitty actions.

I'm not saying it's right AT ALL (it pisses me off) but I can understand that *some* of the women might not be able to control the feelings.

ETA: I think, if you're at the point where gender disappointment affects how you interact with your child, you need to seek out medical help/counseling. JMO.

I want to know how to make fried cheerios, and I want to know now.

ETA: Now I know, and now I want to make them. Now.

jiffy-pop · March 2010

I don't get that board at all! How could someone be "devastated" about having a certain gender?! That's CRAZY! Just b/c you've dreamed all of your life about having a girl and you end up having 5 boys, I'm sure it could be a little dissapointing but not DEVASTATING! I would hate to know my mother was devastated to find out I was a girl! Are these people actually aborting their pregnancies b/c of this?! Why can't they just be happy to have a healthy baby? I just don't understand people sometimes...

LiLnikkiMe · March 2010

OMG, i'm so heartbroken for that little 7 year old boy, who's mother said she has no love or connections for him, and that she has to fake her emotions for him every day like she fakes having an orgasm!

i have such a lump in the throat right now! i feel like kidnapping him, and hugging him and letting him know there would always be a place for him in my heart!

how can you fake your emotions like that? what will happen when he gets his heart broken by a girl for the first time or he's upset about some kids at school, or he just learned a funny joke and wants to share it with you? it just seems so cruel to fake your compassions and laughter!

i really hope she seeks some help for her son's sake!

Ya Never Know · March 2010

Yeah, I hate to pull out the "at least you have a child" or rather the "you're lucky to have a child" card.. but eff it. I'm pulling it out. See siggy below. I am not a happy camper today. Sorry if I offended anyone in this comment. I'm an ass.

jiffy-pop · March 2010

LiLnikkiMe:

OMG, i'm so heartbroken for that little 7 year old boy, who's mother said she has no love or connections for him, and that she has to fake her emotions for him every day like she fakes having an orgasm!

i have such a lump in the throat right now! i feel like kidnapping him, and hugging him and letting him know there would always be a place for him in my heart!

how can you fake your emotions like that? what will happen when he gets his heart broken by a girl for the first time or he's upset about some kids at school, or he just learned a funny joke and wants to share it with you? it just seems so cruel to fake your compassions and laughter!

i really hope she seeks some help for her son's sake!

These people definately need psychological help!!!

Jessiac_3 · March 2010

That is absolutely disgusting!! I don't care what we have as long as they're healthy, and aren't allergic to our pets! I can't believe that woman had an abortion just because it wasn't the child she was hoping for...freaking adopt a girl then!

Some people make me sick...

mchupie · March 2010

piecesofflare:

I read a post on there by a woman who had twin boys through IVF, but wanted a girl. She convinced her husband that they should go to Thailand for a process where you go through IVF and they have a better chance of selecting gender before transfer, but before they left she found out she was pregnant naturally. At 12 weeks she found out it was another boy and aborted. She said that if it had been a girl she'd still be pregnant.

People disgust me.

That is absolutely disgusting. Those parents have a spot reserved for them in hell...

Ya Never Know · March 2010

Jessiac_3:
That is absolutely disgusting!! I don't care what we have as long as they're healthy, and aren't allergic to our pets! I can't believe that woman had an abortion just because it wasn't the child she was hoping for...freaking adopt a girl then!
Some people make me sick...

Wow... I'm not going over to that board, because stuff like this just makes me sick. How can someone be such an a-hole?? I'm pro-choice, but not under the circumstance where you're aborting children just because you don't like what you get. Shame on this person. I don't like to judge, but eff it... I'm judging!!!

BetchySprout · March 2010

Jessiac_3:

That is absolutely disgusting!! I don't care what we have as long as they're healthy, and aren't allergic to our pets! I can't believe that woman had an abortion just because it wasn't the child she was hoping for...freaking adopt a girl then!

Some people make me sick...

Wha? What happens if they are?

sassyandskinny · March 2010

Nothing good comes from this board, nothing! ?I avoid it like the?plague.

mchupie · March 2010

Ya Never Know:
Jessiac_3:

That is absolutely disgusting!! I don't care what we have as long as they're healthy, and aren't allergic to our pets! I can't believe that woman had an abortion just because it wasn't the child she was hoping for...freaking adopt a girl then!

Some people make me sick...

Wow... I'm not going over to that board, because stuff like this just makes me sick. How can someone be such an a-hole?? I'm pro-choice, but not under the circumstance where you're aborting children just because you don't like what you get. Shame on this person. I don't like to judge, but eff it... I'm judging!!!

I'm pro-choice, too, but I think aborting based on gender should be illegal.

jiffy-pop · March 2010

mchupie:
Ya Never Know:
Jessiac_3:

That is absolutely disgusting!! I don't care what we have as long as they're healthy, and aren't allergic to our pets! I can't believe that woman had an abortion just because it wasn't the child she was hoping for...freaking adopt a girl then!

Some people make me sick...

Wow... I'm not going over to that board, because stuff like this just makes me sick. How can someone be such an a-hole?? I'm pro-choice, but not under the circumstance where you're aborting children just because you don't like what you get. Shame on this person. I don't like to judge, but eff it... I'm judging!!!

I'm pro-choice, too, but I think aborting based on gender should be illegal.

Yes Just take what God gives you and be happy about it!

mommajen8 · March 2010

those women on there have i.s.su.e.s.

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