How can I get dd to stop doing this?

belle204 · March 2010

Everywhere we go ... everyone we meet, she has to ask them for their name, number and address. It was slightly cute but now it's annoying and akward. I've tried explaining to her why we don't ask people those things and she just keeps on & if I try to stop her on the spot it turns into a tantrum. She also gives out her name and the street we live on (not the number). It's usually just random, (hopefully) harmless people we meet in a store or at the park and I know it's curiosity of a child but I think it needs to stop. Any suggestions? And if you tell me I'm being irrational you may get cussed out. Fair warning.

femmegem · March 2010

Oy, I can see why you would want to put a stop to that. I'm struggling to think of any kind of natural consequence you could use to help deter her. I'm no help.

oparcm · March 2010

There is no way except to divert to another obsession for her. Yep, that is what I do with Ms. Syd. When she gets obsessed with something, I try to find another one. When that gets old, I look for another one.

grja · March 2010

Yeah, thats tough. Its good that she knows her name, address, etc in case of an emergency and you don't want to discourage her from knowing that. At the same time, how do you prevent her from asking others? I have no idea.

wildfloweragain · March 2010

Hmm, well it WILL go away. DD used to be obsessed with walking up to people and trying to teach them Spanish. Early in the morning in Wal Mart, people don't like that:)

But you want her to get out of this habit sooner rather than later so she doesn't overshare to the wrong person or offend. I'd talk to her before bed one night and make it her goal to work on, reminding her a bunch of times and maybe even providing an incentive like a book or something she wants for meeting her goal.

belle204 · March 2010

At least I'm not the only one stumped. Hmmmm ... a deflective obsession could work.

belle204 · March 2010

Wildflower, that story made me lol. :-) I like your suggestion too.

DandelionMom · March 2010

Maybe a stranger danger talk? Explain that it is fine to say a polite "hi, nice to meet you" but that's about all kids should say to strangers?

Or maybe that would freak her out. Aren't I so helpful!

MelandJeff · March 2010

Tell her that you will buy her a fish if she stops. If she doesnt stop after that tell her you will send the fish to KoriBretts. That is just as good as killing it.

LoveEeyore · March 2010

I'm a lurker, but I would recommend the stranger danger talk. Cut pics out of magazines and intermix pics of people she knows and the strangers in a photo album. Turn the pages and practice things that are safe to say to whom. Make it fun. Expect a backlash of her telling people that they are a stranger danger when they smile at her. It's a good opportunit to throw in pics of police officers and teach that they are safe people. As for the redirecting, maybe redirect towards paying people compliments. Or teach her proper introduction "Hi, I'm Sue and this is my mom!" And stress that she should always introduce her parent, too. Good luck!

belle204 · March 2010

Thanks LoveEeyore. Mel, that is awful. Lol.

KoriBrett · March 2010

MelandJeff:
Tell her that you will buy her a fish if she stops. If she doesnt stop after that tell her you will send the fish to KoriBretts. That is just as good as killing it.

*tosses hair over shoulder and huffs off...* ?Well I NEVER...?

Girl, my house is the place fish come to die. ?We got room for one more, send that sumbitch on over. ?

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